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Quartz11
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02 May 2011, 8:10 pm

I think I applied for a job and got rejected, not a girlfriend. Sure as hell seemed like it.

A couple weeks ago I went on a date with this one gal. It ended after an hour, because she was borrowing a friend's car and the friend wanted it back. But she apologized a bit and said she wanted to hang out again once she got back from a trip over Easter weekend. Said the same thing the day later.

Then I heard nothing for two weeks. Until last night anyway. Apologized for the delayed response, again said she had a good night when she hung out with me...

and there's always a but in my stories.

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...but I have a feeling that you and I would probably not work out. I really need someone with more experience dating. I have been hurt before and tend to like guys with more experience and who understand how to handle someone who has been hurt in the past and might be a bit wary of things now. I wish you all the best. You are so cute and nice and I know there is someone awesome out there for you.



What the hell kind of excuse is that?

I'm thinking she found some other guy she likes better, or I'm too nice. Either way, I got shot down as if I was second best as an applicant for a job.



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02 May 2011, 8:46 pm

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but I have a feeling that you and I would probably not work out


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Just focus on that bit, don't dwell on the rest as it's irrellevant. It is hard to tell someone 'no' so give her some credit


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02 May 2011, 8:55 pm

Agreed, but in my opinion, the first bit is really all that's needed. The excuse is the stupidest and most brain dead thing I've ever heard. She certainly made a good job at making her reason look like an excuse.



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02 May 2011, 9:04 pm

Congrats. You just avoided dating a dumbass.


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02 May 2011, 9:14 pm

I ain't too worried about it, since I did only see her once.

That was just one strange rejection letter though.



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02 May 2011, 9:29 pm

Her decision was already made when she told you her friend wanted the car back. Besides rejecting you, the rest is all just a bunch of excuses. The friend would not ask for the car back while she's on a date, unless the friend is very very rude. You could have asked her why she has such rude friends. In reality, the car probably is not borrowed.


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02 May 2011, 9:30 pm

Quartz11 wrote:
I think I applied for a job and got rejected, not a girlfriend. Sure as hell seemed like it.

A couple weeks ago I went on a date with this one gal. It ended after an hour, because she was borrowing a friend's car and the friend wanted it back. But she apologized a bit and said she wanted to hang out again once she got back from a trip over Easter weekend. Said the same thing the day later.

Then I heard nothing for two weeks. Until last night anyway. Apologized for the delayed response, again said she had a good night when she hung out with me...

and there's always a but in my stories.

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...but I have a feeling that you and I would probably not work out. I really need someone with more experience dating. I have been hurt before and tend to like guys with more experience and who understand how to handle someone who has been hurt in the past and might be a bit wary of things now. I wish you all the best. You are so cute and nice and I know there is someone awesome out there for you.



What the hell kind of excuse is that?

I'm thinking she found some other guy she likes better, or I'm too nice. Either way, I got shot down as if I was second best as an applicant for a job.


Conversely, you didn't end up in a relationship with a b!tch.

I'm not saying this woman was a b!tch but she would have turned into one if she wasn't happy in the relationship.



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02 May 2011, 9:32 pm

sgrannel wrote:
Her decision was already made when she told you her friend wanted the car back. Besides rejecting you, the rest is all just a bunch of excuses. The friend would not ask for the car back while she's on a date, unless the friend is very very rude. You could have asked her why she has such rude friends. In reality, the car probably is not borrowed.


Yeah seems a bit weird, who lends people their car?!



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02 May 2011, 9:33 pm

Quartz11 wrote:
I think I applied for a job and got rejected, not a girlfriend. Sure as hell seemed like it.

A couple weeks ago I went on a date with this one gal. It ended after an hour, because she was borrowing a friend's car and the friend wanted it back. But she apologized a bit and said she wanted to hang out again once she got back from a trip over Easter weekend. Said the same thing the day later.

Then I heard nothing for two weeks. Until last night anyway. Apologized for the delayed response, again said she had a good night when she hung out with me...

and there's always a but in my stories.

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...but I have a feeling that you and I would probably not work out. I really need someone with more experience dating. I have been hurt before and tend to like guys with more experience and who understand how to handle someone who has been hurt in the past and might be a bit wary of things now. I wish you all the best. You are so cute and nice and I know there is someone awesome out there for you.


What a dumb b***h. She gave you the typical nice guy rejection, she views you as a nice guy. That was the most dick thing a girl can ever say. She is probobly damaged goods anyway and doesn't deserve you.


What the hell kind of excuse is that?

I'm thinking she found some other guy she likes better, or I'm too nice. Either way, I got shot down as if I was second best as an applicant for a job.



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03 May 2011, 8:11 pm

In addition to experience she probably also would have asked for a drug test, credit check, and college transcript. :roll:



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03 May 2011, 8:18 pm

She's full of sh*t. She found another guy.

Usually, when you even get a single date with a girl, she's into you physically.

You probably had a virginal vibe and by more experience she meant she wanted a guy that wouldn't get so hurt when she dumped him.



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03 May 2011, 8:27 pm

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She's full of sh*t. She found another guy.

Usually, when you even get a single date with a girl, she's into you physically.

You probably had a virginal vibe and by more experience she meant she wanted a guy that wouldn't get so hurt when she dumped him.


Agree completely, women begin practicing lying when they are young, theyre much better at it then men are.



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03 May 2011, 8:42 pm

If a woman goes off someone it doesn't automatically mean she found someone else. Maybe she just didn't hit it off with him. The excuse was lame though.



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03 May 2011, 10:59 pm

Quartz11 wrote:
What the hell kind of excuse is that?


A really silly one.

mra1200 wrote:
Congrats. You just avoided dating a dumbass.


Agreed.


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04 May 2011, 2:56 am

mra1200 wrote:
Congrats. You just avoided dating a dumbass.


Exactly. Don't get all wound up over her... she's doing you a favor by filtering herself out of your selection process. Now you are free to move on to bigger and better things :)


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04 May 2011, 3:13 am

well, rejection for lack of experience isn't surprising. I suspect plenty of women would prefer experienced guys, over someone who never had a relationship, pass a certain age.