Very hard decision!

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What i am finding very alarming and distressing is that it seems the more laid back and relaxed i feel the worse my aspergers comes out to those around me hence i repel people. i remember as a kid i would day dream and a lot and feel very chilled and people would think i am weird and not talk to me. on the ohter hand when i am stressed people respond much better to me and talk too me a lot more. evne when i feel not angry and in control that is when my family start saying things to me like "Are you feeling okay?" "Are you mentally ill" when i feel nothing of the sort. On days when i feel really angry my family say how pleasent and nice i am.

I notice when i am drunk i am not only relaxed but i can get by a lot better in my enviorment than i would if i was sober and relaxed. so i have got 2 choices to make 1. Relax and be treated like an oucast and repel people or 2. Take care of myself and not get stressed all the time. Unfourtantly i might i have to select choice number 1. It seems being myself will really impair my quality of life.




can behaviour therapy saught out this problem? do we tend to make more mistakes and be clumsly when we are in a neutural mood? it comes to the point now where i am afriad to relax

I understand what you mean. I can only speak from my own experience but acting in a way that is not natural to you only leads to a path of depression and unhappiness.

I tend to think of the 'outside world' as foreign lang I have to translate in my head; it’s a consistent effort, leading to a lot of stress but less mistakes on my part. When I relax and am myself, I’m a lot less stressed but also less acceptable to others.

Have you tried speaking to your family and explaining, perhaps by letter if you are uncomfortable doing it in person, how their comments make to feel?