A word to the guys with Asperger disorder.

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Do you think that when girls look at you they think you're weird?
Because in my school they told me that i'm weird.
And for some reason that hurt me a little bit.

Sadly this happened a lot. Even my wife thought I was a bit 'off' when she met me. I can sympathize with the hurt and I am sorry that you have to endure that.

Thankfully there are some women that do not mind and even seek out eccentric men to date.

Maybe someone here can offer suggestions on how to ease the hurt? I know I struggled with it a lot.

At that age, everyone is messed up. I know that's a cliche and it doesn't really address what you are saying, but after getting to know some of those kids that made fun of me, I realized that they were simply better at pretending the pain wasn't there, and usually the pain they went through was much worse than what I went through, at least on paper it was anyway. I guess they learned to cope better as a defense mechanism in order to keep the world at arms length. Most of the popular guys in school had one parent or divorced parents. The really popular guys in school lived with their mother instead of their father, at least that's what it said in the phone book. So if you are weird, that's a good thing. It beats fitting in with that culture. There was a time that I fit in with that, and I was worse off for it. You constantly have to be false, and if you are popular enough, after a while all you will ever be is false.

You should be flattered. When they start calling you boring is when you should be hurt.

There is worse than that too, of course, but it doesn't make it any more pleasant.

Well, I'd say loads of people have seen me and instantly thought I was weird.
But, if they are not willing to understand or see you as who you are, then it's probably not really worth getting worked up over it. I'm not in school though, so that's easy for me to say, not seeing them every day and all that.

Weird definitely isn't bad. It's when a person is flat out or secretly referred to as "creepy" that you need to worry.

Yeah. But once you're out of high school, girls'll start seeing you in a different light. Hopefully.

Even in high school, a touch of difference can help. At least, that's how I remember it - my high school days came to an end while it was still the sixties.

Part of it may have to do with the high school too. Some, like mine, had issues with anyone different whether by race or behavior.

Seriously. I just wish that all those comments they tell me in school could just stop.

I called myself weird, I felt I was different and just accepted it (I only heard of AS a few years ago btw).

The other bullying still hurt a lot, wasn't much physical bullying but the other stuff. Having no one *ever* stick up for you, name calling, saying crap about you that is false. I hated high school so much.

Yes, I do think that, but got used to it, since most people think I am weird. It is actually quite effective at keeping folks away from me I would not want to be involved with anyhow.

they probably think im weird as hell, since nothing except hitting me in the head with a hammer and dragging me back to their girl cave will ensure romantic action.