Things you can't win in

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People tell you to not bump old topics but yet they don't like it when you post threads that have already been repeated before. You can't win.

People thinking breast feeding is the best (which it is) so they think all women should try and breast feed and keep doing it and not ever stop unless they have a medical reason for why they can't do it but yet people get upset with public breast feeding. You can't win.

Someone gets mad at you for asking questions so you stop, then they tell you if you don't understand, just ask. You can't win.

You should tell people about your AS so they can understand you better and not think you are making your issues up or think you're stupid but yet there are people out there who think AS isn't real and that all the issues with it are not real and that they are just excuses so telling them about your AS could be either of those you get. You can't win

People who tell me I need to talk more in social situations but they say I'm being offensive & rude when I do.

People who tell me I need to cheer up because I'm to negative & depressed but then when I do something that makes me happy; they tell me I'm being immature & need to grow up.

People who ask me how I think & feel about something & then get mad when I tell them

I totally agree with this one! I've found this a lot on WP. Personally, if somebody bumps an old topic dated way back in 2007 or something, it doesn't worry me one way or another. It's really not the end of the world.

I'm glad I found this topic though (and the fact that it isn't 3 years old! )

When people bite your head off if you join in their conversation (like saying, ''we wasn't talking to you!''), but if you sit there and don't join in at all, they will say to you, ''you're quiet!''

When people say that getting drunk at 16 is wrong because they're ''too young'' and shouldn't be doing it at all, but then when somebody in their mid-20s get drunk, people say, ''oh I expect that from a 16-year-old, but not from someone your age!''
Like, what the f**k?! !!

And when I get upset when people glare at me in the street, my social-worker always says, ''well, perhaps they're in a bad mood or something - nothing personally to do with you. You must think about that before getting yourself all upset.'' That's all well and good, but when I go out feeling a bit depressed or in a bad mood (which is not very often), my social-worker says, ''you need to go out looking more happy, otherwise people will look at you!'' So I should consider their feelings, but they don't have to consider mine. Where's the fairness in that?

[generalisation] When NTs don't understand us (some don't care to), yet we must understand them and their society to be deemed acceptable.
Perhaps this is less of something we can't win in as it is double standards. [/generalisation]

Gender selection. You can't choose your gender in your mother's womb, like you can in a profile.

Chess

Pole Vault

Water Polo

Debates with stubborn people.

Backgammon and life.

Latin professors 'cause they're always right

people from the province since they always know the best

relatives and all big, loud and arrogant people since they have obviously soaked all knowledge and wisdom on how everyone and everything around them should be like

Religious people (no offence intended), I just hate having arguments with them where logic goes out the window.

People who expect you to know what they think without saying a word and get upset when you ask what's wrong!

Opening those tightly sealed very hard plastic covers from items/toys, 99% chance you cut your finger in the process!

Trying to mediate between WP members when they fall out!

I get this a lot. At a day camp when I was 4 or 5, if I did even the slightest thing wrong, my mom would be told, I would have to apologize, and would be in big trouble. There was a boy who hit me, and they thought it was perfectly OK.

There is a girl at my school that I really don't like at all and it's mutual; she doesn't like me either. However, some of the staff think that it's perfectly OK for her to dislike me, but think that I have try and be as nice to her as possible,

I thought thing you can't win in:

Parents get upset when teenagers have few friends and say "You need to have more friends", when they have lots of friends, the parents say "You spend too much time with your friends".

Debates/Arguments.

Being told that I should be comfortable being myself and not have to explain or apologize for anything I enjoy, but then being told that I have to hide movie posters and DVDs with "offensive" material on them when my extreme right-wing conservative sister and her husband come to visit, and also being told that I can't share my drawings with people because they're "offensive". I can't win.

Being told by liberals that I need to make my own decisions regarding my religious beliefs, but when I tell them that I made the choice myself to believe the things I do and no one is forcing me, they act like it doesn't count. I can't win.

Trying to convince certain people that not all Muslims are bad/scum of the earth people. Some people's minds are made up and yes you can't win.

And trying to beat my brother in ProEvolutionSoccer. I just suck at that game.

If you live in Britain, as an average person who isn't rich, foreign, or got kids, then you can't win on anything. It's like the ''hole in my bucket'' loop. The government expects everybody to be in employment, yet they are cutting all our services, so they expect everybody to look elsewhere, yet they're rising the tax ensurance on cars, so they advise people to use public transport, yet they're cutting lots of bus services, but they're expecting people to find employment elsewhere if everything is gone in their area......it goes on and on, round and round in circles. The only way to break that loop is to win the lottery, but it's no good sitting waiting for that to happen. So, we're screwed.