How to deal with mean/immature people? I'm really withdrawn

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People often get annoyed with me because of my social awkwardness. I have seen people roll their eyes after I say something. I have sometimes heard people say mean things about me behind my back. Sometimes, after saying something, I have seen people look at each other in a way that plainly says "wow, she's so weird and annoying."

That last one just happened at work earlier. It makes me feel really embarrassed and unhappy. Sometimes I give people the benefit of the doubt, hoping that they will be welcoming or at least polite if I try to talk, but so often I get nasty reactions of annoyance like that.

Since this has happened to me a lot throughout my life, I have become really withdrawn. I kind of don't bother talking to people anymore because I assume that they will all dislike me. I guess that this only really happens with people who are immature, though, but I still, for the sake of my emotions, assume that it will happen with everyone.

But anyway, my question is, how do you deal with this? I know that it's unhealthy to become so withdrawn, but is it maybe justified to be withdrawn around immature people who are unlikely to tolerate my awkwardness?

I wish I knew. I go through the same things you just described. It's rough. But remember, you have people who understand you here. And we do what we can here to try to compensate for the fact that we're not understood elsewhere

I've become very shy. It's just easier to not try to interact with other people. Every time I try, it usually goes poorly. I need to work on social skills, but in the meantime, WP is a great place for moral support.

When I was a kid, no one was a stranger. Even so, folks would -often- hurt my feelings. Some days as an adult, it is a struggle still. One of the better things I was ever told was that, 'Most folks are just struggling to survive'. We are all often stuck in our own, little world. The most fulfilling moments I have had in my life were when I tried to, and succeeded in viewing the world in another manner...

Put simply - don't worry about others. If you feel brave, let them know you didn't mean to upset them. If you don't, just focus on you and what you do. Cause no harm, and eventually no harm will come to you.

well, you could try and ask them to stop/leave you alone, but that probably won't work. so my advice would be simply to ignore them.

I think its a matter of being more picky about the people you hang out with. but be prepared for a lot of isolation........suitable people are quite rare....they do exist but not in such abundance that they happen by very often. I'd say increase the number of people you look at. Just remember that it's your choice who you take on and who you don't. Aspies usually get on much better with inclusive, nonjudgemental people....you know, those who don't instantly run a mile or get nasty just because somebody has done something a bit unusual. They know that as long as you aren't seriously threatening them, you're acceptable.

I just dont talk 2 ppl anymore, period, i try not to look at them, i feel very alone