Would i be a creep

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I knew this girl back 4 years ago when i was in high school, and i was thinking about adding her as a friend on facebook. I'm afraid i would look like a creep though since my page has one pic and only 6 friends, i'm just starting out with the whole facebook thing. I hate to admit it but i still think about her often even though we were hardly acquaintances. I have never even had a friend that was a girl no less a girlfriend, so somehow it meant something to me to even talk to her at all when i was 17. she was the first girl i was able to exchange more then just a few sentences with, first girl that hugged me as well. I know that sounds realy pathetic, and it is. before i catch any heat, i am not fixated on this girl in any unhealthy way, i do a good job at controlling my emotions when it comes to women and crushes and what not. I see her pic and how much different she is, how she looks like a whore just like all the girls her age nowadays and it makes me feel weird, i don't know...

Ah, just the drunk ramblings of a lonely man.

I'd say go ahead and add her. If she accepts the request, great! If she doesn't (for your supposed 'creepiness') then I'd say she's not someone you'd want as a friend. it works out either way. I have several friends on Facebook who I only were acquaintances of IRL years ago.

I'm also afraid my friends may think I'm a creep if she accepts because i have had the account for over 3 months and haven't added any of my friends, the only one i have are ones that requested me. maybe I'm thinking too much into it. do people even look at there friends pages for that matter?

Can you not just add all your friends first and then add her? That would bulk up the numbers.

Only two people know whether you initiated a Friend request or the other person did: you and the other person. Does this person from high school have many Friends on her Facebook account? If so, chances are she'll say, "Oh yeah, BillyJoe from high school. I remember him." *approves request*

As for everyone else who's already Friends with you, they'll see "BillyJoe and GirlFromHighSchool became friends" listed in their updates for a few hours or day, until other messages pushed it away. Might not even see it at all if they have a lot of Friends.

Speaking as someone who's over-thought plenty of things in his time, and shall continue to do so, I'd say you're totally over-thinking this.

If you are self-concious about the number of friends on your list, you can always hide your list. Look under the privacy settings section for a way to do this. I'd say add her after you do this, as you will feel more comfortable doing so.