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donnie_darko
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04 Jun 2011, 8:09 pm

Aspies often get extremely into certain things. i dont think this is a bad thing generally. would it make more sense to refer to aspie 'obsessions' as passions?



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04 Jun 2011, 8:12 pm

I prefer the term special interests.

I was actually thinking they should do research on our brains when with our special interests vs. an NT socialsing with friends to see if there's a similar activation in the brain. I know the there's an area in the brain that doesn't light up for us when we socialise that should, but there might be when we are engaged in our interests.


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04 Jun 2011, 8:53 pm

I also prefer the terms passions and special interests over the, obsessions. Obsession is such a clinical word. I hate it.


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04 Jun 2011, 9:00 pm

I like obsessions.


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04 Jun 2011, 10:10 pm

Obsessions, passions, special interests - I use all three interchangeably. When talking about them in a thread, I use whichever term the OP used so as not to offend them by accidentally using one they dislike.



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05 Jun 2011, 12:19 am

I like special interests. Passion can refer to love.



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05 Jun 2011, 12:40 am

While I don't really like the negative connotation behind "obsessions," I think it is the most accurate. Interests doesn't really make any sense, because everybody has interests, but not necessarily obsessions. I guess passions could work too though.


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05 Jun 2011, 12:44 am

SammichEater wrote:
While I don't really like the negative connotation behind "obsessions," I think it is the most accurate. Interests doesn't really make any sense, because everybody has interests, but not necessarily obsessions. I guess passions could work too though.


There's a negative connotation with "obsessions"? I never picked up on it. Passion reminds me of romantic love.


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05 Jun 2011, 4:53 am

thewrll wrote:
I like special interests. Passion can refer to love.


true but isn't an obsession/special interest a kind of love?



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05 Jun 2011, 5:34 am

"Obsession" works for me.
Accurate.


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05 Jun 2011, 5:56 am

donnie_darko wrote:
thewrll wrote:
I like special interests. Passion can refer to love.


true but isn't an obsession/special interest a kind of love?


They have different levels of emotion and definition which would place them at different extremes, That's why they exist as seperate words so
Special Interest would be a low level extreme
Passion would be a mid level extreme and
Obsession would be a high level extreme

other examples would be
like, love, adore
good, great, brilliant
etc;



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05 Jun 2011, 7:49 am

I think obsession is more accurate. In general these obsessions are great, because help them excel in an specific subject or area, but everything has a down side. The problem with these obsessions, in our case at least, is that our daughter only wants to do the things she is obsessed with and ignore everything else, and when she does that at school that usually generate trouble. We are working on teaching her not to "disconect" while doing the things she loves to do, so she can fuction while doing them. It is hard to achieve, but needed.



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05 Jun 2011, 8:19 am

Each word implies a different level of self-control.


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05 Jun 2011, 5:50 pm

Well, I guess I am obsessed with The Kinks so maybe obsession isn't such a bad word, after all. It's just that I'm still cheesed off at that ex-friend of mine for telling the ambulance to take me to emergency, just because I'm obsessed with an old group and she didn't like anyting that's old. That happened almost 2 years ago. I should get over it.


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05 Jun 2011, 6:04 pm

Music is both an obsession and a passion for me.



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05 Jun 2011, 6:10 pm

I can't more.. my obsession is pressure for me, killing me, my person obsession ignore me and killing me, so I'm in bad situation.. but I'm not in love with him, neither i have passion, simple i suffer, because 2 months he was nice person and than he started ignore me, more than 1 year pass and i can't stop, I'm tired, i must forget him, he is really strong in his ignorance, looking for find where was my mistake make me depressed.