Don't touch...

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What places? I'm not talking about the ones we all know not to, more about the sensory issues ones.

In my case:
Don't touch my wrists.

See, like that, no, poll, just leave a comment.

Legs, neck, arms... pretty much everything. You're better off asking me what can be touched: hands, face and hair. There, that was shorter, see.

Dont touch any thing except my back and my feet with shoes.Except for a boyfriend and then all is fare game except the back of my head,my hair unless you pet it the direction it grows...duh.

The back of my hands are a safe touch zone if I don't know you well. No hugs, no touches, no hair ruffles, nothing else is doable with me. People who are allowed to hug and touch my arms and back are my parents, one aunt and two of my cousins. Presumabley a significant other would be able to touch at will, if I had one. But I really can't bear for strangers to touch me. I kind of hate to do this, but I've got my work associates in my stores convinced that women don't shake hands in my religion. But it's easier to smile and say "we don't shake hands" (like some of the more conservative Jewish and Christian Sects.) and everyone's so PC about religion anymore that no one comments on it. It's easier to explain than AS. I'm a bit twitchy about letting strangers know that I've got AS, because they look at you differently then.

No one touches me. No one dares, I have a very evil glare when I want to....
I remember when some one sat next to me and that made me edgy enough.
So....... No one touches me....... EVER.

shoulders

My belly button

anywhere on my stomach

my neck, my legs, my arms, my wrists and my face

depends how well I knwo you. My friends are allowed probably everywhere except my neck. Strangers - nowhere thanks. If I've been chatting to you for a while them my arms are OK, and hugs are generally allowed. But please, if you must touch, do it firmly!

Don't touch anywhere on my abdomen because it hurts every day.

Torso (including shoulders and armpits), neck, head (especially face and hair).

Don't touch anything except my hands and only when I know it is going to happen. I always feel shock when someone touches me. I always feel immediate agression when someone touches my head when I don't expect it.

It varies which parts can be touched, depending on the person.

Family members. Hands, arms, or shoulder are all fair game. The back is OK too, as long as the touch is momentary: patting is fine, rubbing is not. Hugs are somewhat comfortable, but avoided except in some circumstances.

Male friends and co-workers. Hands or shoulders are no problem. Handshakes are perfectly fine, while a touch on the shoulder must be no more than a few seconds. Hugs are uncomfortable, although I can tolerate the low-contact ones.

Female friends and co-workers. Any part above the waist is no problem at all; an example of where this would happen would be dancing or a hug. Touches anywhere else are no problem, but will be a surprise, due to the platonic nature of the relationship.

Romantic partners and escorts. Anywhere and everywhere; no restrictions. This also holds true for anyone intersted in me, even if I just met her. The only exception is my hair: It doesn't feel good, but I'm willing to put up with it.

Belly button area, thighs. Sometimes don't touch anywhere!! !

I was brought up to shake hands with everyone. I'm so used to that, I do it automatically. Hugs are welcome from people I'm already used to, but not strangers.

Shaking hands actually gives me a sort of distraction from the real emotional torture of meeting a stranger. I hate meeting new people face to face, some times are worse than others, but if it's a huggy, touchy, feely person I get very uncomfortable and STICK MY HAND OUT first and keep it there, if possible. I can usually smell a person for several hours after they hug me and not everyone smells all that pleasant.

Some of the jobs I've had (portrait photography, I'm actually quite good at instinctively capturing characteristic expressions of perfect strangers) have made it necessary to meet new people constantly, but I manage to get through it OK as long as I get my 'personal' time when I need it. Time to wash their smell off my hands, or just scratch them off of me at least is one thing, but the ability to get private, take short breaks and mentally recover for a few minutes also helps me make it through those rougher days.

Generally, it doesn't matter where I'm touched as long as it's momentary and a 'hard' touch (slap on the shoulder, playful punches, fine), not a gentle, creepy touch. BUT ... stay away from my face or you will get a much-faster-than-you-expect defensive response. Unfortunately, when I'm having a bad day, that same defensive feeling happens, even to my kids who are PDD and don't understand the concept of personal space very well. ....... YET!

I'll accept touching from people I know and like, but never in these places:
*Hair
*Back
*Hips
*Torso (unless it's a hug)
*Thighs

Strangers and people I'm not comfortable with are not allowed to touch me at all. Unless it's a handshake, or if I'm the one to make the first move. (Which is very, very rare, and usually only used when comforting someone.)