Stuttering and being a jerk

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Whenever someone is about to make a call and asks me to keep quiet, I have to either shout or make a loud sigh to relieve this "rebellious" urge. After they have made the call, I'll make another loud sigh to relieve my urge, so I won't shout during the call.

And how do I stop stuttering? I stutter a little when I talk, but when someone who goes all angry, I stutter even more, and I can't find a word to reply.

Another thing I found highly annoying is that I laugh uncontrollably, sometimes too much, people say I laugh too much, giving away surprises . Even more embarrassing is that if someone asks me if I lie, I laugh when I tell the truth, making the person think I'm jesting, but I'm telling the truth.

How do I improve on all of these? I've been told these things multiple times by people, but I can't fix any of these problems, no matter what I do.

Those are issues where you will need to monitor your own behavior and most likely use substitute behaviors. Ex. When you get the urge to laugh, try to make a light fake cough and take a breathe before looking or fake looking (by focusing between the eyebrows) the person in the eye when you respond. As for the stuttering issue, I'd try practicing the sounds you tend to stutter on in "pretend scenarios" during your free time when alone. Also, speak slowly.

I used to stutter. Up until I was about 13/14. Mostly the plosives (b, p, g) but I had real problems with m and n words too. It was one of the reasons I grew to loathe my dad. Turned out he stuttered until he was in his early 20s but never once gave me any support or told me things would get better, even though he knew how much crap I got because of it. I hated the kind of people who preferred to finish my sentences for me rather than wait (which makes everything so much worse when you are seven or eight and really struggling). I learned to sing my words. Badly. I have to say. I have a terrible singing voice. But it gave me confidence and within a year or so, my stutter was almost gone. Your post brought it all back. When I got angry, my stutter got so bad I could hardly get a word out.

I can't help at all with the rest. But, I can tell you I was a real mess as a kid. I think a lot of it was down to the emotional problems I had. I wet the bed until I was 17/18 years old. It was only when I was no longer living at home, that it stopped. My confidence grew. In my case, I'm sure it was not having my mother tut-tutting at every last thing I did or my dad treating me with barely disguised contempt.

I still get bad times - read my previous posts - but I'm a model of perfection compared to what I was.

You'll get there. But make changes in your own good time. Putting yourself under pressure just to please others, could make things even worse.

Thanks guys, and yes, I do have problems pronouncing too, having my friends clarifying and telling me I should learn how to pronounce properly, my tongue is really short and inflexible. Not a fun thing. And I'll try the "fake looking", if it doesn't work then I'll fake a cough.

Also my mom still stutters, and stutters more than me, so I'm not sure if it'll go away with time.