Should aspies have children?

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What are your opinions of this? Are you an aspie with dreams of having children?

I am myself a person with asperger syndome. Having children really frightens me, and I would panic if I made a girl pregnant. It seems that children are really hard work, and I allways think my parents would have had a much happier life beeing childless. At least my father, but girls are usually unhappy without children.

So I myself would NOT have children. But I don't know the general advice for people with aspies. Whats your opinion? In your answer please include if you are diagnosed or NT, and your gender. It would be interesting if the women had different opinions than men.

I am so effing pissed right now.

I edited what I said. Just something about people and their plans for a "master race" disgusts me.

Male 29 and aspie im with you no kids, don't get me wrong i love children but in moderation I also don't want to get married or atleast at this point in my life. Just my two cents

Should we? I don't know.

Do I want children? Heck no, I don't want to have to deal with all that crap. Earth is overpopulated with humans as it is anyway.

I am NT. My husband is Aspie. We have an 11 years-old Aspie. He did not want to have children. I did. I will not say I regret having my child, but its hard. Very hard. I do not want to have more children. I do not feel fit to do this again. But everyone has the right to have children and live their own experiences.

I think that it's up to the individual person whether they want children or not, whether they have AS or not.

Personally I don't like or want children, I'm a female aspie but yeah, everyone assumes because I'm a girl, then are shocked when I dont

I don't see why not. I definitely want kids and I know they'll probably be somewhere on the spectrum. It's hard work and alot of money, but I do want to experience raising at least two kids.

I am married to an Aspie and we have a 4 year old non-Aspie little girl. I can honestly say that having a child has helped my husband a lot with social situations. Being a dad has brought him way outside of himself and I've seen him bond with our little girl in ways I really never dreamed of. They just connect. He's not afraid. She accepts him and loves him and idolizes him. Sometimes he's more distant but she isn't scared to reach out to him when she needs affection and he isn't scared to reach out to her when he wants to hold her. He is a wonderful daddy. Sometimes, he gets a little too intense and I've interveined to diffuse the situation. It's unusual when this happens but it's more likely to happen after he's had a really stressful day at work. It was really a pleasant surprise to fall in love again with him all over because he's such a nice daddy.

I can't say yes or no to this because it depends on the aspie. I think anyone who will be a good parent should have kids. Not all aspies are bad parents and some of them make great parents.

I am an aspie and i have 2 children. Some aspies make great parents, some would make bad parents. Some Nt's would be bad parents and some good.

I don't think being a parent is something only to be reserved for NT people.



Plus we need to all have lots of aspie children so we can take over the world! oh what a great world that would be!

I would love to have children marriage or no marriage..

Based on my past experience of looking after my baby sister and a nephew and niece I think I can be a good parent...

If someone wants to have children, they have the right to try. I am an aspie, and have children. I even have a doctor's statement that my AS does not make me unfit to be a parent.