Wanting to socialize on the internet?

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Hello,
I was wondering about one thing. Aspies don't really like/need to socialize. I am very similar in this regard, at least when it comes to "real life" socializing. However, I find myself often sitting at the computer just waiting for someone to come online on msn or some other chat platform. Is this common with Aspies, or do Aspies simply not need to socialize at all?

I have found this rather interesting in WP.

In the real life, I know several AS people, who hardly talks, or talk simple things and pretend smiles....

I found there are many people here and they seems really enjoyed. Are they? or not?

And why?

I think everybody is very individual in this aspect. I found out that I do actually want to socialize, but it is a much smaller need than for NT's. I only need to interact with people about once per week, but in normal life it is much more often than that, so I never noticed that need because it was already being fulfilled. I also look forward to chatting online with friends, and for that I don't have a maximum limit because it doesn't stress me out the same way that real life interaction does, so I want to do it more often.

I knew a girl online (probably an undiagnosed autistic) that hates socializing even online.
About me i like to stay with one person at time in real life,, instead i like to socialize online.
But i hate chatrooms. They're confusing, i tried one years ago, when i finished to wrote my answer the topic was already changed, especially because of hign frequency of trolls that spammed.

Why do I like it? Simple, when I think about it...

* it removes the body language malarkey and irritation of listening to the conversation being interfered with by another conversation, ambient noise, etc.
* I can (sort of, not at full concentration) do it while I pursue interests, in peace
* I don't have to bother with the logistics of assembling a set of friends in one place and time
* It is easier for me to direct the conversation
* Lastly, and I cannot stress this enough, because it is social interaction, but on my terms.

I kind of like it.....it's like socialising but I don't need to make rapid responses that can't be corrected before the cat's out of the bag. It's easier to ignore the people I don't like without being pointed about it.

But I'm also quite aware of how "cold" it is compared with meeting real people. Of course you can always meet online friends, if they live near to you. If not, Web interaction to me is halfway between isolation and having friends.

One great thing about it is that you can be ananymous, which can be useful if you want to talk about really personal things, or stuff that would otherwise be betraying the confidence of people you know in real life.

I like to socialize; but in every social situation, there seems to be a moment where I suddenly become aware that the people I am with would rather be elsewhere, or that they would rather that I would be somewhere else. So usually I just show up, eat some food, laugh at a few jokes, and then quietly leave.