Why is This

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I used to be obsessed with middle eastern girls, but they treated me like crap. One girl threw a piece of paper on the floor with my phone number written on it, and I mean "threw it!" Others just completely ignored me and I had a friend who they ignored too. I have had experiences where they ignored my messages and denied my friend request when they knew me. From my experiences Middle Eastern women are nasty and evil. But when it comes to Italian women my experiences have been a bit better. they usually write me back, they are nice, I have had Italian girls come on to me, and even write me first, same with German girls. I am black, so you all can know how all this plays a part.

Now, my brother likes Middle Eastern women now, and when he talks about them my stomach literally turns and I have to leave the room. I sometimes try to shift the conversation somewhere else without seeming like an a-hole. But when he talks about European women my stomach doesn't turn and I don't get that gagging feeling.

why is this, am I a racist? and if the Middle Eastern women are physically attractive, how come I can't find myself attracted to them anymore?

are you trying to date a woman or a continent here

im not trying to date anyone. im talking about how i am treated by people/ just like aspies and nts, im not trying to date them or be friends with them. im talking about how certain people give you certain experiences, so please go away with the immature jokes.

onestepbeyond has a point, though it's obviously a sore spot for you. It's unfair to collectively slag women from an entire region of the earth. I imagine you're turned off by Middle Eastern women due to a sort of guilt by association; you've had negative experiences with some of them, and when people treat you badly, it's a turn-off which trumps physical attraction. It could be that many women from the Middle East unfortunately have a negative perception of black people. However, you seem to have an advantage with Italian and German women. Hey, go where the love is!

Peace

for the record, I'm an evil white guy

i went to a school with a ton of middle eastern people. i can tell you that they have no interest in dating anyone outside their ethnic group. and btw, most of them are racist towards blacks. (but most black people are also extremely racist towards everyone, in my limited experience).

whoops double post

I know what you mean about them not having positive perceptions of black people. but they talked to a lot of other black guys. and some of them even had sex with other black guys (these were the ones who didnt wear burqas on their head). so i believe they just didn't like me for the same reason most girls dont like me, but they were just meaner. oh well for whatever reason it was i cant do anything about it, and the fact is that they hated me.

yeah man i know what you mean from a different perspective. IN the last 3 years ive met a lot of white girls here who were just not into me because im Asian. its just been programmed into everyones brains by the media that Asian men are effeminate, weak, intelligent but lacking in backbone so i definitely saw some girls just immediately cross me of their list. its all preference of course and im not mad or bitter about it....my current gf was 1 of the aforementioned girls who were not interested prob because of the stereotypes, but once she got to know me a little more she found out that i'm not effeminate, weak either physically or mentally though i do have lapses in judgement......, and contrary to the sterotype I was not exceedingly intelligent nor did i have a small package in my pants.

I guess middle eastern women just do not have a good perception of black folk as you said. All i can say is you should keep trying and you will meet a woman who will not even see the color of your skin and like you for who you are. I mean it happened to me, I dont see any reason why anybody else could not achieve their romantic goals. If anything a Asian man with a White woman is just as rare or rarer than a Black man with a Arab woman....so yeah it can totally happen. just wade through all the women, 1 by 1....and you'll find her.

I am black, from US. My first love was Arab. She liked black guys, but her family wanted her to date someone Arab. There was another Arab girl at the college who flirted with me some. She wasn't as traditional I don't think, more assimilated into American culture. I don't think dating a non-Arab would have been a problem for her. I don't think you can cross Arab girls off your list per se. Every woman is different.

However, I must confess, I have a similar situation when it comes to black women. I am attracted every kind of woman except black women. I think it has to do with being treated really badly by my mom, black women in my family, and my black female peers growing up. I guess some would call it self-hatred, reverse racism, or something. I just have the experience of being treated better by lighter skinned women, and that is what I am attracted to. I have the experience of being rejected by black women. We develop biases based on past experience.
I do try to be open-minded though. I'm not going to 100% rule out dating a black girl. I know I have this bias, but every woman is different.