Slamming Doors

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I live in an apartment complex and every time my neighbors go in our out, they slam their door. This puts me on edge. I cannot handle this type of noise. I can't really force them to stop. It just comes with living around others. I do berate them in my mind and wonder why the hell they can't act decent when they live in close proximity to others. There's no way they don't know it's bothersome. It is SO loud. I have had meltdowns because of it.

Anyway, does anyone else have this problem? I don't know how to feel better until I can move this winter when my lease is up.

Hey, I detest slamming doors also and have found in the past that I've been much more frequently successful at controlling the door than the behavior of those using it. Past resolutions (some with and some without the door's 'owner' or 'manager') have included taping down the little 'flippy' part of the keying mechanism, 'shimming' (scraping down) the door's edge (or the 'rest' it seats into), lining the doorjamb with a thin weather-stripping, and, in one particular situation, removing the door altogether. I've also encountered a situation where a landlord prevented any modifying of others' door-using behavior AND any modifying of the door itself. In that case, we began having discussions about his responsibility to me as a tenant, possibly moving me to an unit farther from the noisy door, and/or all that could be involved (and I definitely poured on some exaggeration here) if he were to provide my unit with noise-dampening 'mechanisms'. Within a week, he had made arrangements to alter the main door's noise-producing 'abilities'.

Yes ! !! !! yes yes yes yes I hate doors being slammed my dad would slam them all the time because a utter total cock, we have 18 doors in my house and he would slam all of them he was always in a foul mood and we have a very dysfunctional family and his way of deliberately irritating people was to slam doors and also make a lot of noise whilst eating deliberatly slurping and being obnoxious, and in the winter as we have a log fire the door slamming would cause a backdraft and pull the smoke from the fire back into the room and fill the house with acrid smoke, also I would find it extremely disorientating and make me feel sick.

I would be filled with total dread and terror when he would come home from work or from going out and I would hate the weekends as he was around more to do this.

when I tried to talking to him about it he snapped and held me against the wall by the throat and kept poking me just under my eye with his fork telling me to mind my own f'ing business.

Is this a general thing here? Am I about to learn something new? I've already learned that I'm not alone on this subject. People who slam doors drive me nuts. I also have another problem. I live in a small block of flats where all the windows are large. In summer, when they are left wide open, a draft can build up and make them bang shut with a noise to wake the dead. Maybe living alone and producing little noise of my own makes me more aware of the noise made by others.

Keimeren.....my dad is/was a complete and utter waste of space too, but being physically threatened is going too far. You used past tense, so, are you away from all that now?

I despise the noise of slamming doors, but then even the sounds of the females above me talking and laughing loudly, and marching around above me, drives me insane. Really thin floors here and it is a Victorian house, so you can hear everything... I am amazed I don't hear it when they fart actually, it is that bad. I used to get really distressed and shout and break things when they would roll in noisily at 2, 3, 4am in the morning. Now I just stuff earplugs in and try to keep calm.

YES!! !

Everytime my mum comes over she slams the back door over and over and over again...

I usually hide upstairs and pretend she's not here

Towards the end our relationship became horrific and I had spent my life doing things to sort him and my mum out I even had to buy thier house to stop it from being repossessed I reached a point after one of my brothers committed suicide and his responce was "we must not let people know it was suicide think of the family name" so me and my mum both snapped she walked out after 36 years on him and now lives in her own place and my dad well I threw him out and told him never to come back.

I cannt express on here the years and years of tiny little things he has done to cause us heartbreak and misery its all been emotional abuse. everything from ignoring you when you talked to him, right up to not telling us our sister had died until after her funeral out of spite.

he isnt completely out of my life yet but I have never respected him and I can get angry when people do the whole "yes but hes your dad you should work it out"