Avoiding People Completely

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Who avoids people completely? I do now. I have had too many bad experiences with people blowing me off, ignoring me, and bullying me. I can't take it anymore. My brother tells me that I'm not good with people so I should just avoid them. and that's what I've been doing. I haven't been back in the hospital since.

I avoid 99% of people if I can. But it's not practical for getting things done.

I try to avoid it as much as possible. I do a lot of online shopping and if I can contact someone via email, I do it.
Not easy to avoid folk all the time though since I work in an office, but I keep a low profile and people probably think I am stuck up or something.

I avoid them as much as possible in real life. I'm a little more sociable online, but not much.

I find it necessary to have some social contact just to make day to day life more practical, but it's purely practical. Usually, all I get from it is some groceries and a headache.

I avoid people as much as possible. Only when I must interact with someone do I do so. Email is the best, phone is second and face to face is the last option. As the old saying goes, "If it hurts when you do that, don't do that!" I find this to be good advice with respect to interacting with other people. Avoidance simply works.

There is one exception to this however, namely my ham radio hobby, but that is almost always in a controlled environment and often follows a well defined pattern of topics. Too, there is always the power button!

I generally avoid most people because I've found that most people are either too sensitive or unable to have an intelligent conversation. It's hard to find just one or the other, but finding someone that's both of those things is rare. Those are the people that I can have a ridiculously silly conversation with that has no purpose to it besides fun and nonsense, but at the same time I can talk about issues with them, and it's not all about "Let's go save the world!" it's just to see what they know, and to see how they react. By my own calculations, only 5% of people are like this. I've found it to be depressingly true that the minute I bring up a topic like religion or bullies, people brace themselves. I hate those people. It's not that I enjoy talking about those things, I simply bring up those topics as a litmus test. Can this person relax when talking to someone else? Is this person comfortable with who they are? That's the test, and most people flunk.

I go into different levels of avoidance. Usually I try to keep as minimum of contact as socially acceptable, but then there are the down times...they usually happen once or twice a month, but everything gets shut off and everyone gets shut down. Many times no one will hear from me for over a week. I've lost a lot of friends this way unfortunately. I wish I could stop, but then again I'm afraid if I do I'll stress myself out. It's almost like a need to "re-charge" and usually stems from socializing too much. I'll spend a longer amount of time socializing than I'm used to, get drained, and shut down. Meh. This probably doesn't help your situation, but I do sympathize...

yeah i have been avoiding people probably since college. it only got worse after that living in the real world on my own. i have only had work friends and get my social fill everyday being there but after work, i dont want to talk to or hang out with anyone. i want and need to be alone. i had just been around 100 plus people for 8 hours non stop, so i need my alone time. and of course that leads to social isolation. i have only had fb for about a year now and just recently deactivated once again. i dont even miss it this time. i have come to realize that all fb is all for people to love themselves, not others, just themselves. and no one has noticed like all the other times im not even on. so all those dozens of friends are BS just like all the friends in my life have been and were BS. i dont see myself ever getting out of this. i think this is my life for however long that lasts.