Could Taboos Against Natural Human Things Be Hurting Us?

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DGuru
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11 Jul 2011, 7:33 pm

Some natural social things that are common are stigmatized as immoral like gossip, head games, etc. but NTs instinctively learn these anyways even if they disapprove of them.

Natural human desires are often stigmatized too even if everyone has them.

This could lead to a tendancy of self-denial and be fueling a lot of emotional problems.

There's so many things adults tell their children are "wrong" that people in social situations appreciate and respect like teasing. How would the world be different if parents instead of telling their kids "don't tease" told them that teasing is sometimes fun and means people like you? Or further, even if they don't like you if you respond to it right they might, and in fact might even think they were doing it for fun because people's memories sometimes rewrite themselves.

I've also realized in some cases something can offend someone and increase their respect for. In fact something can increase and decrease respect for a person in different ways.



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12 Jul 2011, 4:36 am

It is like the discussion of the boundaries of comedy - people are frequently disgusted or offended by comedy acts, yet most of the best comedy is transgressive. A lot of truth is told in jest, a lot of learning is through mistakes.



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12 Jul 2011, 4:55 am

It is generally better for the individual and those whom they affect to live by love rather than indifference to others.

Repression of certain natural things (for example, crime) can be a good thing, but it has to be harmonised with the social, cultural and structural context such that these problems either don't arise so readily in the first place or that the symptoms of the problem(s) are accommodated.