What is love?

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I've had this on my mind for a while. Here's an interesting article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/liv ... e-not-love

baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.


sorry couldn't resist.

You beat me to it emlion!

In any case, on any dimension or meaning, I do not feel love.

According to that article I've never felt it.
Not even for family.
compassion but not that type of love.

I'm really glad I read that article. Love is a deep desire to know someone completely. Not to know them as you'd like to see them, but to accept them as they truly are. I feel childish all of a sudden.

Love is like a giant neodymium magnet. Get close enough, slam into it, and it won't let you go. You won't want to let go.
There is no more.

Love is a word that has been twisted around to the point that it has no meaning anymore. Surely none of you love everything you've ever done. We define love in absolutist terms because we are brought up to an absolutist way of thinking. People say "I love video games" I love my car" I love playing basketball" but we think it's different. We use the same word because it's not different. Maybe one day we can define love in more relevant terms, such as "In what way is this person extensional to me, and vice versa?" By extensional, I mean an extension of human attributes. For example, glasses help the eyes with sight. The glasses are extensional to that person. He/she might say "I love my glasses" Maybe a pretty girl might help a guy with feeling less lonely. She might fulfill his need for companionship. He might say "I love this girl" We define love traditionally by going down the checklist of things we need from another person, and if they fill most of the important needs on the list, we say we love that person. Typically, people love others of the opposite sex, because romance is usually sexual, and most people have more broad sexual feelings for the opposite sex.

Ha! A different definition now. So she's its a sort of attachment, could or could not one sided... interesting! T'was a good read thanks.

reminds me of this song



[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZ2jNGRXIIw[/youtube]

For most people love is a natural thing, like the honey bee. It keeps coming back to the flowers time after time. If you study the honey bee you may speculate about how difficult its job is, but to the bee, it's effortless.
But we are not honey bees, we have to grab hold of the flowers, inspect them, and coax the sweet elixir out in a careful and steady way.