feeling part female/part male=aspie girl trait???

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I have read in aspergirls....great book, btw! that it is not uncommon for females of the spectrum to feel part female/part male.

I felt this way my whole life...I thought it was just me being ever so weird as I am, but apparently it is common with us. In some way it feels great to feel validated, in other ways...at some level, I feel like more of a set of traits than a person. I am feel like I am ASD, not Jojo in some ways.

Many of the things I thought that made me unique...just happen to be aspie girl traits.

So what do you think?
Do you feel the same when you understand the difference between girl and guy ASD's?

what about the part female/part male thing??
How many of you feel that way too??

Jojo

When I first started learning a lot about AS, I felt the same way, that I was no longer a unique individual, but just a bunch of ASD traits. Now I'm starting to realize that I am still a unique individual because of my values and my experiences et cetera. I hope you get to that point too.

I also get the part male/part female feeling. Like to the point where I have to think for a second which bathroom I'm supposed to go in at school or whatever, which makes absolutely no logical sense, I don't understand why I do that. When I was maybe 10 or 12 I watched a show on the Discovery Health channel about transgender people and I thought it was really interesting. I thought maybe that was what I was feeling, that I'm actually a male mind with a female body, but that never quite fit either. So I guess I'm just androgynous. I don't have this gender identity stuff all worked out yet.

This is actually a very common aspergirl trait. Here is a list of female asperger symptoms: http://help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_a58d4f6a/wp_a58d4f6a.html

This trait is described in the first column, about halfway down.

I know that I wanted very badly to be a boy most of my childhood. I still envy men in a lot of ways, and I am and always have been a huge tomboy. However, I always valued my femininity and the unique qualities of women. I LOVED Tamora Pierce's books because they were all about women proving that they could be as strong and skilled as men but still retain the essential qualities of womenhood.

I think a lot of it is that I can't deal with a lot of the seemingly frivolous aspects of modern femininity. I HATE girly-girls; hate feeling like I have to shave, put on makeup, have a huge wardrobe with a million cute outfits, etc; in order to fulfill the modern idea of what a woman is. I mostly hang out with dudes cuz it is chiller and guys do way more fun, physical stuff!

But at heart I am a woman, and there are times when it is nice just to embrace my feminine aspect. Particularly in romantic situations.

I was combing my daughter's hair this morning, trying to put it into a ponytail, in an attempt to prevent her getting headlice for a 4th time. Anyway, it wasn't quite right and I was re-doing it. My daughter said, 'Mummy, why are you always trying to make me look nice. Life isn't about looking nice. Life is about living.' I thought, wow, how true, this 5yr old could teach the world a thing or two (but I still want her hair to look tidy). This is one of many differences I see between us and most other females. Metrosexual men just freak me out, for spending more time in a week, beautifying themselves, than I would do in a whole year.

Anyway, in response to the OP, the feeling of being part-female/ part-male applies to both my daughter and I. As a child, I didn't want to be a girl. I'm hetero, married, not trans, but when I dream, I'm usually male. My daughter has often said she doesn't think she's a girl and that she has a boy's voice. She has one female friend, the rest of the kids she plays with are boys and she seems to fit right in with them. She only has one friend at school (a boy).

This is my score

Your Raw Score is: -400, which indicates that overall you are Androgynous

Your appearance is Androgynous

Your brain processes are mostly that of a Male person.

You appear to socialize in a masculine manner.

You believe you have major conflicts about your gender identity.

You indicated your were born Female.

ANALYSIS:
Female to Male Transsexual, who is a serious candidate for Gender Reassignment Surgery
NOTES:

Your Answers indicate your psychological state has likely prevailed since you were quite young.