Is this quite common?

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Is being angry most of the time something which is common in AS?

There's a certain irritation that's present in my personality. Maybe it's tension?

I don't get more angry than anyone else.

there is a tendancy for people with AS too blow up over small things so no wonder we might be get angry more often than a neurotypical.

What I express over small things is a bit of frustration. It manifests as a slight irritation. I see other people doing it, too.

What about being angry all the time? What could be causing that?

I can angry over things (which may seem silly to other people) but are major to me
NT's will laugh at me but they don't understand

In my experience, people with AS are not more easily angered than NTs, but we are more easily stressed.

Do you have any problems identifying your emotions? You may be reading stress as anger... Or just automatically responding to stress with anger. Many NTs respond to stress with anger, so that's not an autistic-only problem.

I don't know that short tempers are the exclusive domain of AS. I am one to blow up at little things, though. sadly I have a short fuse.

Tension and frustration. I looked on a Psychology website. One suggestion for controlling an angry response was restructuring your thoughts, not using colorful language when angry. Don't dwell on how angry you are. Breathe deeply and say the word "relax" over and over in your head. Tell yourself getting angry doesn't help the situation.

The website said it's a bad idea to let anger totally overwhelm you in an attempt to express angry feelings as this leads to more intense anger.

Same here.


Yes, yes, it helps to an extent.

sorry cna you explain what u mean by "leading too more intense anger"?

Expressing anger increases the adrenaline and blood pressure which can make the anger more intense.

Another suggestion is, if someone calls you a name, try to think of something humorous. The website says to literally picture the word in your head and imagine what it looks like. The website uses the word dirtbag as an example. If you get angry and want to call someone a dirtbag, or they call you one, picture a real bag of dirt in your mind. It's supposed to look funny.

Or, you can take time to figure out what's really upsetting the person who made you angry, which I've seen you do already. The website says that helps, too.

A lot of times I get angry when out in public, but silently of course. But I'm scared that in a few years to come I'm going to suddenly lose control and actually explode when out in public. I'm just so scared that this is going to happen to me as I get older and older. I know I do have self-control, but what if something tragic happens in my life, like a close relative dying? Sometimes when somebody (especially the emotionally fragile, like me) loses a loved one, they ''go to pot''. I know somebody who has lost her 30-year-old son over a year ago now, and she's still not over it, and has turned weird. I'm scared this might happen to me.

You see, I hate people. I don't mean it personally to anyone, because I love my family and friends, but I just hate people in general. In other words, I hate crowds. And sometimes, when I'm in a bad mood, I show my anger, by glaring at everyone and scowling and even muttering things like ''f**k sake!'' under my breath. I just cannot help myself. Especially when the bus is completely filled up when I get on, so I have to stand, and I cannot stand for long because I start feeling sick. I then really hate the people in the bus. And I can't make people stand up for me, because they might think I'm young enough to stand and if I tell them about my balance problems they won't believe me, and will just think I'm propping up excuses to sit down. Things like this makes me angry. I just cannot help glaring. I like people to know how I'm feeling. I don't want to happily calmly stand up, because it looks as if I want to stand and happy with it, when inside I am not. I just hope I don't get worse and start abusing people. Oh, I hope I don't.

I just find it mighty difficult to have angry feelings on the inside and a happy face on the outside.

Well put. I feel/do/act/respond the same way quite often.

My biggest issue isn't usually people on the bus (my balance issues aren't too bad, I just sway a bit when I try to stand still) but is rather people on sidewalks or in shopping malls who weave all over, or walk arm in arm without leaving space for other persons. To me these people are behaving ignorant of the other humans around them... thoughtless, careless, inconsiderate.

There are other times I hate "general people" but that's the big one for me.

I don't know about it having anything to with AS, but I do tend to get angry a lot and very easily. I can't help it, certain things people say and do just really annoy me. Part of the problem might also be that I sometimes take what people say the wrong way.

I'm not easily affect by anger. I do get irritated sometimes, when I'm stressed.