Being a hermit

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I thought I would post about being a hermit and living mainly in solitude. I wouldn't say I am alone 100% of the time I have a job and I go to Aspie meetings once a month. I have one tomorrow night. I belong to a Toastmasters club and go once a week. Other than that I don't go out at all after work or on the weekends only to do my shopping or run errands. I don't see anyone or socialise with anyone and keep to myself only occasionally saying hello to neighbours.
Just wanting to know how many of you out there would class yourself as hermits. Do you socialise much or not at all. Do you think it is unhealthy to be a hermit?

Count me in.

It's a good feeling to focus on your hobbies rather than stressing over climbing the social mountain...
Being around people too much makes me tense unless theyre introverted type people...

Yes I would rather focus on my hobbies and interests as the social mountain is a very large mountain to climb. I am just no good at socialising and would rather be alone

Definitely prefer to be a hermit.

I like being a hermit... i do go out here and there with friends... maybe on a Saturday night if there really is nothing better to do... but otherwise i would much rather stay home or go do my own thing... much more satisfying for me...

I live at home with my parents, like I always have, but I would classify myself as a hermit. at most I spend 45 minutes a day in conversation with them. the rest of the time I am reading or on the computer.

I am pretty much a hermit. I live with my parents, well actually in a little cottage behind their house, but I don't talk much to my dad beyond hi how are you, and I talk to my mom several times a day, but only for a few minutes at a time. The rest of my interactions with people are stuff I have to do to get through my day, like going to the grocery store and going to the bank, that sort of thing. I hope to start my own computer repair business here again soon, so then I will interact with people. But as far as having a social life, forget it. I just don't feel the need.

I am fighting the desire for total hermitude. I have always spent most of my non-working time alone but have always tried to get out and socialize. But this last year of two, it feels so pointless. I can't decide which is better for me though. Should I keep on trying or hole up and pull the trapdoor shut behind me?

I always thought I wanted to be talkative during social gatherings but learned that it isn't all about talking. Its about enjoying each others company. If it isn't going so well always remember that you have interest outside of the social situation and trying to perfect them I guess. Getting an A on a test is probably better than getting in A in conversation skills. Depending how deep you want to go with that but whatever.

I also live with parents, and talk to them a little every day. It's not much, but I've found that total isolation does eventually depress me, and that little bit of interaction is enough to inoculate against that (especially since not working anymore). I don't really have any social engagements beyond that. I might be in trouble when they've both passed.

Due to some acquired cognitive problems I've lost a lot of hobbies/interests, which is definitely not helpful. It also makes conversing that much harder. OTOH, I worry less about messing up, looking out-of-it, or slow, or weird (because I am out-of-it, slow, and weird, so screw it). (I think the not caring about messing up comes through a bit and actually helps a little, oddly enough.)

I have my own house and car. A ok-paying job that keeps me comfortable and a little bit of socialization at work. When I get home I lock myself inside, I go out to grab food in the quickest way possible and don't speak to anyone. But I find myself wanting to speak to someone... I find myself getting lonely. It took a year and a few months but now I've been lonely almost constantly.

I'm considering starting to buy in bulk and have it delivered/get a deep freezer to limit my contact with the outside world. This may be ideal. As long as I use the deep freezer for food and not girls... right?

I would be a hermit, except that I have roomates which I see everday. But if I were to live alone I am sure I could pass days, weeks, and even months without seening anyone. Except the delivery guy of course, because I don't really like to cook.
I just never really feel a need to be with people.

I don't think I'd mind living as a hermit. It would probably be best, for the sake of my sanity.

The hermetic life is always an option. Considering how irreparably aloof I am and how the possibility of more-than-platonic love is a faint dream, f**k it. Why not?

platonic love is better than no love at all. anyways, i have been quasi-hikkikomori much of my life.