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Hey guys do serious relationships usaually grow out of friendships or is it true that it happens at love at first sight?

I think it would depend on the 2 people. Each relationship is different.

If you can "love" someone without knowing the first thing about them, ("at first sight"),
then I apparently have a misconception as to what love is.
Sounds more like lust.

Either, but most healthy, positive, lasting relationships begin with a solid foundation in friendship.

I'll put it this way. Much in the same way as you can't start and stop playing tennis and still be in the zone, you can't start and stop a friendship and expect it to work well. If you are running a marathon, and the adrenaline is pumping, you can't just stop and expect to run at the same rate you did. In fact, once you stop, your whole body hurts. Body and mind are connected. Or maybe you are writing something great and you on a roll, or you are banging on all cylinders on your video game. You can't just stop that. Same with relationships. You can't just get to know someone, show interest in them, then start doing something else and come back to them as if nothing changed. Your attention span changed. Is this going to be a recurring pattern, you starting and stopping? Maybe not, but if that's all you've seen up to that point, then of course the only conclusion that can be drawn is to try someone else. Endless suitors, remember? Most people aren't going to understand the way focus works for many Aspies.

From the relationships I've seen around me, more successful ones have been from friendships than lusting over what the person looks like.

I know a couple that claims they fell in love with each other at first sight. They've been together for 6 years now. Before they met each other one of them never believed in love and another was a womanizer who never had a relationship last more than a week. I also know a guy that claims he fell in love at first sight and got married to the lady 2 years later.

I think love a first sight relationships grow into something more when they get to know each other and hence are called love-at-first-sight. It starts with a crush or attraction.

Of the two relationships I've had with men during which 'love' was involved, one was love at first sight and the other sprouted from a whirlwind friendship (not a typo, we became incredibly close, though platonic, pretty much overnight). Some deal of looks might be involved in love at first sight, but there needs to be more than just that. My ex was handsome, but it was only after five minutes of talking to him that I was smitten. I still have a soft spot for him five years down the line

My current boyfriend and I are a different matter entirely. We were best friends for nine months before we started our relationship and know each other through and through. Although I trust him more than I ever did my ex, I think I can say I love(d) them both. I'd say that there needs to be some degree of overwhelming instant attraction, physical or otherwise, for a relationship to come about. One is not necessarily better than the other.