Why do people assume I have a girlfriend?

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I have never dated, and I am a virgin. Somehow, people assume I have a girlfriend. My boss gave me an invitation to the Christmas party said I should bring my girlfriend along with me. The people at the LGBT center asked me why I never mentioned my girlfriend. A guy I casually met asked me what I liked to do with my girlfriend.

I have a hint. I asked a person why they thought that and they said, "You just seem to be the type of person that would have one." Needless to say, it wasn't a very helpful hint.

Why do people assume that? Could there be a possible trait about me that causes people assume this? It is very puzzling to me. I am just a runt of a college student and not some mega stud.

Must be a sign that you could totally win a girl's heart. Go for it haha

I couldn't tell you. Maybe you come across as confident, or in control? If people assume you can get women, it's a good thing.

It seems to me that people either assume that nearly everyone has a partner, and/or consider it rude to say to someone's face that they assume that the person does not have a partner. So, they pretend that everyone does, since that is the less insulting mistake to make.

Though, there could be other reasons.

It means you're attractive which means you could have any combination of the following traits: manly, handsome, leader-like, confident, humorous, intelligent, ambitious, tall and/or "verbally skilled" (meaning it's normal and sophisticated, "weird" and sophisticated tends to drop you a few attraction points, lol.). You might also have a way of talking with the ladies that these people have noticed.

I'm the exact opposite, people are often borderline-shocked to hear that I do have a girlfriend...

Maybe it's the way you talk about your personal life. Do you typically engage in activities that people dating would do

The people who suggest that you have a girlfriend could be doing it for several reasons:

1. When they invite you to a party and suggest that you bring a girlfriend - they are simply opening the invitation to bring a girlfriend/wife/partner if you have one. They are saying that it is not a "stag" (i.e. men only event) or an event for just employees (if at work).

2. They are fishing for information - Do you have a girlfriend? (Maybe they are scoping you to see if you are single or not for either themselves or a friend).

3. They may be fishing for information - Do you have a girlfriend or are you gay? They may be scoping out for themselves or for a gay friend.

4. They may just assume that a young college guy might have a girlfriend - nothing wrong with that.

i get the same thing from time to time

usualy its from college girls or co-workers

and they allways seem so disappointed when i say "i dont"

one time lied(just out of curiousity )saying "i did" and the girl who asked started to hit on me and gave me her number

This sometimes happens to me, too, and I figured maybe it is ordinary people's way of trying to find out if you have a partner. I was confused as well, when people seem to assume that I was in a relationship, as I never talk about anything, simply there is nothing to talk about. The situation most prominently on my mind is after training, one of my acquaintances from the group who just got engaged to his girlfriend was dealing out some candy and stuff for celebrations, and since I don't like candy, I only ate one piece to be polite. As I was about to leave, he said since he has brought so much, I should take some along. When I said: No thanks, I don't eat that much candy! , he replied: "ok, but you could take some along for your fiancée", which confused me because I never gave anyone reason to believe I had a fiancee, and to my reply that I didn't have one, he saiD "ok, for your girlfriend, then", and he honestly seemed surprised that I did not have one, either. After thinking about it quite some time, I figured he just wanted to find out a little bit about me and my personal life, since I rarely talk about personal stuff.