It's Been Around Six Months Since my Last Date

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Since I started taking online dating somewhat seriously a couple years ago, I was pretty successful at making a connection and meeting someone, even if it's just once, at least every few months. However, my last proper date was last March and my dating life has been pretty much dead every since.

I can think of multiple reasons of this long lull.

I'm Sick of Online Dating
Quite frankly, online dating has long lost its appeal on me. Girls tend to incredibly picky when looking for people online and even if I do meet someone, I'm usually dumped right after meeting. As such, even though I remain on OKCupid, I don't really actively search that often.

The Last Connection was Particularly Hurtful
It's one thing to have a date with someone and have them tell you they don't want to continue seeing you. It's a whole other ballgame to go on a date with someone (and pay the bill) and then never hear from them again. The fact that it was close to my birthday (and that I had hoped to see her again on my birthday) didn't really help.

I Have More Important Things to Worry About
I have been out of school and unemployed for more than a year and it's now becoming more important than ever that I find a job. As such, any prospective relationships have been put on the back-burner.

Hopefully, this long lull won't last forever and I'll find someone eventually.

6 months isn't bad. I'm going on 2 years.

SPK,

I get the sense from your post that finding a job is really weighing on your conscious. That's totally understandable, and probably eats at your confidence a bit, and your motivation, to date. Dating can be tough in the best of situations, but the added pressure, even subconsciously, of finding work can depress your vibe.

Try to keep occupied...exercise, hobbies, etc. Focus on finding work. Once you find work, perhaps your life will settle a bit more and you can feel more secure in yourself to start dating again.


Hang in there!

And also, life is streaky, just like baseball. You can have a couple of good games, and a couple of bad games, even if you're swinging well, just mainly by luck.

I try and be open to appreciating others. I try and ask out in a confident and straightforward way. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

I tried dating sites for 6 years with no luck so your doing a lot better than me Gimpy I mean SPKx. I suspect dating would be a lot easier & better for you 1ce you had a job because you might could meet women from your employment or make friends with other employees who might have friends or relatives & you also seem like less of a bum to women. I wish I had some advice or something more supportive to say except that I think it's good that your focusing more on finding a job. I really wish you luck

6 months? lol Try 25 years. No dating, no kissing, hugging, or even phone numbers.

I think you're all missing the OP's problem. He's smarting from the abrupt end his last go at a relationship suffered.

I wish I had some advice. I specialize in short relationships that I kill on my own terms by being a prick.

For the "six months?! I wish!" crowd, I would offer up the social value of alcohol. Lots of alcohol. Or more accurately, hanging around women who drink lots of alcohol. Come on -- Halloween is coming. Everyone gets a little extra loose when they're drinking and wearing masks.

It's been one year since my last date. I'm never having a date as an underclassmen again. I'm gonna date when I'm a Junior.

Never been on a date, the idea creeps me out.
Ahhh, but anyways, 6 months doesn't seem like too long...

I'm convinced that mankind would be extinct today if it weren't for alcohol.

It's just too hard to sit in a room full of people and think about everything that could go wrong if you ask a girl out. For me it;s the scenarios that end in marriage and eventually divorce or gun play that scare me.