Quite aspies vs Loud aspies

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Saw a couple video's on youtube thought it was kind of an interesting topic.
I would likely be the quite aspie (if indeed i am one) and wouldn't talk your ear off about a topic unless you seemed genuinely interested.
I have known people who are likely loud aspies though i am not certain.

Anyways....what divides aspies from becoming very talkitive to very reserved?

Is it anxiety/shyness? Too much awareness vs not enough awareness? Something else entirely?

I don't mean volume of words...because if i'm not very quite then i talk too loud.

More likely number of words spoken- loud=more words spoke, quite=less words spoken.

I am quiet when the conversation is not about a topic that I find particularly interesting. When the topic is interesting to me, I have lots of thoughts about it, and my default setting is to say these thoughts out loud, whether I am alone or with others, so I become loud. I am quietest when the conversation changes topics a lot. When I am having a more socially aware day, I might filter my thoughts a little, but once I really get into a conversation about an interesting topic, all filters disappear, and I am very loud, say a lot, and possibly drive other people nuts. In terms of volume, I also speak louder during these times, and I am expressive with facial expressions and gestures, all of which are meant to convey more information about the topic and have nothing to do with theory of mind, although they may be miscontrued as such by others.

So I can be very quiet or very loud, depending on the specific situation. My quietness is not due to anxiety or shyness, but it can look that way to others. My loudness is like a runaway tractor trailer driven by interest and being socially unaware.

I am a LOUD Aspie boy. Always have been!

Interesting thread. My husband of 24 years (undiagnosed) is a loud aspie, but kind of wouldnt say loud more like a running commentary on what he is doing at the time, where he is going (yes even to the loo)! and when there is a topic of interest will talk non stop. I think alot of this is adrenaline/anxiety driven!

I'm not entirely sure what kind of aspie I am.

I'm a quiet aspie... Until I feel comfortable with the person, then I'm very loud.

I am loud with strangers, quiet with those I know, don't ask me why just am

I'm very loud and talkative, unless I'm in a bad mood. Then I get quiet.

I'm both. I used to be a loud aspie but now I am just quiet. I get loud if I get into talking and won't shut up. Plus I talk loud when I get excited.

yup, same reasons as for NT's. i'm an introvert. i recharge by being alone. i'm naturally quiet, as is my NT husband. you might want to check out meyers-briggs personality types. (i'm an INFJ).

I'm quet. Even with people I'm comfortable with I'm quiet. And that's in volume and amount of words. Unless I have something specific to say to someone I won't say anything. And if I can hear myself I assume that everyone else can hear me too (not always the case)