25 and never had a girlfriend

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To this day I have never had a girlfriend or even a fling. I'm still a virgin believe it or not. A few months ago I was on a week course for a job interview and I met a couple of interesting people. One of them was a girl who I befriended and we talked quite a bit and apparently after the course she got in touch with me on facebook and asked if we could get together and we eventually did twice. The first time was just a drink and the second was a trip to the cinema with her 7 year old niece which was last friday and since then I haven't really been in contact with her until now. We've been texting each other alot today and I'm not sure exactly but it looks like we're just gonna be friends, though that might lead somewhere. To be fair I'm not sure I feel any connection with her. It would be nice to have a girlfriend but this whole thing is happening too fast. I don't really go out much and I don't really have many hang out type friends. The only time I really go out is when a new film is out that I want to see and as you can guess I'm into the whole movie, tv and internet stuff and I'm a stay at home type of guy. She was the one who made the first move and I'm kinda honered but I wouldn't have considered her the type of girl to ask out. A part of me thinks do I want a girlfriend. I mean sure with a girlfriend you can have conpanionship and other stuff that I will not mention, but I don't know if I could ever fall in love and do the whole comitmant thing which would lead to other things. I do of course find women attractive, I will confess I do look at naked women on the internet which is kinda perverted, demeaning and insensitive towards women but I can't control my hormones, I don't do it all the time though. I guess in a way I'm sorta like Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory except for the part where the actor who plays him is gay and that he is super smart.

I'm 27 and have never had a girlfriend (or even gone on a date that could lead to such) and I'm a virgin, so YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Plus, some people actually prefer to be single for life.

Sounds as if you aren't interested in a relationship with this woman (nor do you want a whole romantic relationship with any woman right now). That's OK. There's no timer ticking on this.

Going on 25 in the next 2 weeks and I've never had a girlfriend either. What's the issue here? =/ I actually somewhat like being able to discuss with females without feeling any sexual feeling for them. =/ I have many girl "friends" with whom I share a platonic bond, which is atm more than enough for me. :p

I'm 28 and have never had one. I never will have one either.

I have had several and I've kinda just concluded that going through life single is the best approach.

May I join?

I'm 21, a virgin, and have never had a girlfriend.

I do want one though.

Maybe I don't want a girlfriend right now but that could change in the not too distant future. I want to at least have sex with a girl though if or when the oppotunity comes I may have to do some thinking because I don't wanna end up getting a girl pregnant, sure I can wear a condom but from what I hear they usually don't work.

You guys just need to put yourselves out there more to find a girl. If your at a college campus then its great for practice, just be as friendly as you can towards everyone then eventually something will happen cause friends introduce friends.

I am in the same boat... well sort of. I have experimented with one sex... not with the other even though I am more interested in the other, lol. So yea, you are certainly not alone.

I never actually mentioned this at first but a couple of days after I saw the girl she started texting me one thursday asking why I haven't texted her back. I explained saying that I was gonna but thought I'd just leave it for a while and after that everything seemed OK, until later that evening when she started to ask if I would marry her and at first I thought she was kidding but more random texts kept coming and she started to scare me. I assumed that she was probably drunk or that one of her friends were messing about but I don't think it was any of that. Eventually after an hour or so she gave up and told me that she was ...well I'm not sure exactly, she was testing me or something. So after only seeing her twice I think we're just gonna remain friends and this whole experience has kinda put me off dating for a while. Even if it wasn't a joke and just a test to see if I'm really into relantionships or something it was really wrong of her to send these messages and freak me out like that. I've never really ever attempted to find a girlfriend because I just couldn't be bothered too. I'm not saying I don't want one but I'm OK with being single for now, but by the time stuff like this does happening to me I'll probably be in my late 30's or early 40's and thats OK I guess. Also the fact that I have aspergers is probably one of the reasons that stop me from properly talking to girls, so I can't really make the first move, the other person does. Plus I guess I'm just kinda lazy.

Sorry but she sounds scary, I'd run a mile in your shoes!

30+ female here, same goes only substitute word "girlfriend" for "boyfriend". Thinking of starting my own thread on the subject cos I just don't get how the whole dating girlfriend/boyfriend thing is supposed to work...

I hope some other females post on this thread otherwise I'll just feel stupid....

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