Do you ever...

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...see someone, and just know they know what you go through as they do, too?

Yes. It gives such such a soothing "Ah, there you are" feeling that makes life seem worth living even if you only interact with them for a moment. I can't be a mistake if there are some others out there so like me... the odds of even two such "mistakes" are impossibly low.

I read this sentence like 3 times and I don't understand what you are trying to say. It must be me, since someone already commented. And I read the follow-up comment and I still don't understand.

@purchase and JHKyle
can you please explain what you are talking about or is this an inside joke.

It is this kind of stuff that drives me crazy (sorry, but this happens to me IRL a lot).

Ah, not an inside joke! I an assuming what JHKyle meant was Do you ever see someone, and just get the awareness (based on little behavioral signals they give off I guess) that they have an understanding of your experience in life (specifically hardships) because they have the same experience/hardships?

I am not sure if the question necessarily meant that they look at you also and recognize you as someone with those hardships, or just that they know the experience of someone with those hardships, but anyway either way it's pretty neat to encounter such a person if you ask me.

I guess what I mean is that I can look at some people, and I know that in their eyes, they know what i go through, because they go through it, too. it's something deep that is inexplicable but is just something you know, it's innate, and it is, in its own weird little way, a pleasure....

Thanks for the explanation. I have never had this experience.

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do you ever approach these people?

I know exactly what you mean! Its like aspires have a built in radar, kind of like how gay people have "gay-dar". I can always tell when someone has aspergers, just by the littlest things they do.

Do I ever approach them? No, I don't. Because I wouldn't want to be approached by a stranger based upon that. It's a mutual respect thing.

Yes. And these people happen to be my closest friends. They have all struggled with anxiety and feeling different. I am so grateful for them.

I've never had that experience, but despite the fact that nobody in mental health services has ever picked up on me having any AS traits (or at least never mentioned it) in two years, someone I just met this week asked me if I had it as she has a son with it and said I am just like him in the way I interact.

I don't know about just looking at someone and knowing that, but I have noticed that after getting to know the people I do interact with, we are all very similar. I don't know about a sort of radar. I think it's more of a magnet. Like people clot together.

yes, its a good feeling. Definitely feels better then going through the feeling judged look.

I didn't understand the OP at first either . . . and no . . well sort of. I worked at a daycare where there was an autistic boy that came in the evenings he was around 9 . .. I was . . 23 at the time?. I had so much fun with him! He talked little, and loved the jungle boy movie, watched it everyday. I would sit down and watch it with him and roll toys with him back and forth. And then my roommate would tell me we where done for the day! We stayed late evenings after most kids left to help clean . . . id sit on the floor and play with him. It was great.

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