Aspie + a couple of drinks = Normal

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Does anyone else find that they can function better at social gatherings with a few drinks inside them?

I've noticed all my life that when I've had a few drinks I'm a completely different person, happy, flirty, tendency to go up to total strangers and talk to them. But when I'm sober, I'm my normal, shy, quiet, sits in a corner and won't say boo to a goose self.

It helps a little bit I also noticed a little weed can help with that too.

That's because it is lowering your social inhibitions and making you less aware of your surroundings and social environment, the problem is that you're not actually relying on yourself to be outgoing, you're relying on the alcohol and making yourself more dependent on it. I've seen people turn into alcoholics for this very reason.

This would be what social drinking is. I am pretty sure that being a drunk aspie would not appear normal to anyone.

Last edited by jackbus01 on 25 Oct 2011, 11:35 am, edited 1 time in total.

Im not as anxious after some drinks... but socially i probably function worse as a whole... the conversations go from quality to quantity the more drinks i have...

It helps with the nerves. Unfortunately, it doesn't make you a more socially adjusted person. You still have all the dorky mannerisms and lack of group-dynamic intuition that made you isolated in the first place. Unless you get in a fight you'll think you did well. However, when you really analyze what happened days later after the high has worn off, it's wasn't so hot.

same

Getting a "buzz" from alcohol doesn't completely alter my personality as it seems to with you. I act relatively the same unless I become extremely drunk. Even then I don't start talking non-stop.

Everyone NT and AS acts stupid after several drinks. That's the point isn't it.

For me, a little bit of alcohol often takes the edge off nervousness and worry.

I am in favor of underdoing this.

I'm a man in my forties, 5'5", about 150 pounds, and on an empty stomach, I can feel an effect as nurse and slowly work my way to the end of just one beer.

Of course. Not denying it's a lot of fun. I do it all the time.

But I would never hail alcohol as something that makes you function better, or be more normal, or the cure for aspergers. All your issues are still present even when you numb your mind to the point to not caring. NTs still don't truly accept you. Even though you get more attention, it's only because you're more entertaining.

I would recommend it anyone who could use a light-hearted good time. But you must realise you're just getting a temporary rise out of people. If you go back sober thinking you've finally been accepted, you're gunna be dissapointed.

It's probably just the social anxiety going away. That and you're less aware of your awkwardness and other people's social cues. So for aspies, the alcohol just makes us comfortable in our own awkwardness.

Well when I drink I don't give a crap as much.....so I behave more like an extrovert, but drinking for me tends to mean either I don't drink at all or I'm drinking pretty regularly.

Drinking doesn't make it better for me. Depending on the crowd, it could actually make it worse. I drink. I forget to monitor my langauge and then I make some horrible off-color remark. Then everyone looks at me like I am weird and moves away from me.

I absolutely cannot drink around strangers, people I haven't seen for a while, or people I don't trust with various aspects of myself. When I am socially anxious, I just want to get drunk, and this leads to horrible results. I stick with weed, which makes me warm/receptive to others, talkative and secure around people.

I am the opposite. When I am socially anxious and drink as a result it usually ends well, but smoking pot in a social situation when I haven't been drinking is a disaster.

The last time I bought dope (from a random friend of a friend several months ago) they were insistent that I took a bong rip to be sure it was up to snuff, even though I insisted I could easily tell it was solid just looking at it. I was so nervous simply being around random people that I knocked the bong over and almost broke it