Am I ugly?

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Be honest.





This is by webcam. I wish I had a digital camera to show off more detail.

I'm doing my best to smile on both of these pics.


Now do you believe me when I say I look like a ugly ret*d? Or are you going to make some white-lies just to make me feel better about myself.

Please, none of the decent girls here would date a person with a face like that. Do not start with the BS.

If you saw me as a random person in public, you'd probably point, giggle, and laugh at me with your friends, because of how my face looks and how I dress.

Add in the other stuff that's wrong with me, you can see why I've never been on a date, and why no girl/woman would be interested in me.

Oh my god!! You're better looking than most of the guys in the NBA All-Star Game!! Granted I have a slightly asymmetrical face myself owing to a tumor under one eye when I was born that I wish I didn't have! Just get cornrows, clean yourself up a tad (AXE products are a wise investment in this area), buy a couple TapouT & Affliction shirts & the ladies will be all over you in no time!!

Arrrrrrrhhhh!! !

If I see another person asking if they are hot or not or if they are pretty/handsome/ugly I am going to SCREAM!! !

NO YOU ARE NOT UGLY!!

YOU HAVE GORGEOUS EYES, YOU HAVE BEAUTIFUL SKIN. YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL MOUTH. So what if you are not smiling like the first emoticon on the left. Egads.

I am a decent 40 year old lady. I am not going to grace the cover of a fashion magazine, nor do children run screaming from me. I have had several boyfriends and am now married.

I spent so much of my teens and twenties worried about whether I was pretty enough. WHAT A WASTE OF MY TIME THAT WAS!! ! I was perfectly fine. I was so self conscious because I thought I was suppose to look like something from a fashion magazine that I didn't enjoy my own wonderful beauty and relax and enjoy my life. I finally learned this in my early/mid thirties. As soon as I figured this out - viola - I became much more attractive to others.

Soooooo - the lesson I want you (and every other teen/young adult out there with the same worries/fears) - PHYSICALLY - YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL!! ! WE ALL COME IN DIFFERENT WONDERFUL SHAPES/SIZES/COLOUR/BODY TYPES. YOU ARE ALL GORGEOUS!! !! !

CR

No, but you're ugly on the inside to women if you need to post this, insecurity drives off women faster than anything else.

MR20,

Have you not yet realized that by asking this question (and others like it), you are opening yourself up to abuse and ridicule by people who could not care less about your appearance, but who do enjoy seeing you post about how much you think it sucks to be you?

If you are not prepared to deal with such people, then may I suggest that you either refrain from posting such questions in Love & Dating, or instead post them in The Haven, where the standards of posting are more favorable for you?

I hope that you do not see these questions as attacks, as they are not intended to be such. Instead, I hope that you will at least try to understand that those who make posts that figuratively say, "My Life Sucks - Kick Me" will be figuratively kicked - swiftly, severely, and frequently - and that there are trolls waiting all around for just such an opportunity.

Please do not feed the trolls.

Fnord

Once again, I have to challenge your fundamental premise of needing others to "validate" you, even if it's validating your abysmally negative self-image.

You need to do whatever you need to do to make you enjoy your life, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

I've spent many years thinking if I just did [fill in the blank] then finally people would "like" me. Well I did all those things ten times over and I'm still friendless and unattractive to women - but I still wouldn't trade my life for anyone's because I've done things that impress the sh*t out of me, and that's all that matters.

I am always going to be autistic, I am always going to be different, I am always going to occassionally overhear people making fun of my quirks behind my back, I will never be normal, I will never be NT and it's pretty damn possible that I will never find a romantic relationship. I can't do anything about those things.

Focus on the things you can control and go out and kick ass at them...

Good luck!

I know for a fact that it's far from impossible to have a good relationship if you have aspergers. I'm an overly neurotic mess with s**t low self esteem, but I learned to hide it. I'm in a good relationship with an amazing girl right now, and this is coming from someone who was CONSTANTLY laughed at and made fun of in high school for being different. Even if you aren't normal, the key is to ACT normal.

I think you have some good features there. You have a healthy glow and your skin looks nice. Your facial bones are nicely structured. You also have bright, clear eyes.

So no, I dont think you are ugly at all.

There is no ugly. Just people attractive to different looks, and ofc warped by media to love a certain shape more then another.

There are soon 7 billion people on earth and a good percentage of that would love you to death.

Be happy and ignore public opinion.