How important is money really?

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I often hear that one of the major thing holding people back romantically is their perceived lack of economic status, and yet I see people who are not fortunate in this respect who are nonetheless very sucessful romantically (and the opposite as well *cough*)

Just how much do you think money has to do with it? Has anyone here been rejected for this reason? What do you think the "minimum" requirements along these lines? Why? How do women feel about the subject?

Note: the first guy who posts "women only want money" can expect to get a wedgie they will never forget...

It's more important than it should be.

It's the heart and soul of materialism, a trait of those with very little spiritual substance/ low vibrational beings.

We are in the dark ages, after all.

Humperdinck has no interest in the monetary status of others. In fact he specifically asks not to be told. Humperdinck would much rather be rich in life and love then money.

Humperdinck would more likely turn a person away if they made lots of money. Or money was important to them.

I've tried the barter system at the grocery store and, no go.

Seriously, though, I think financial independence and responsibility are important, not so much *money*. I'm turned off by a guy who expects me to be impressed by his car. To him, it's part of a social ritual, something everyone's expected to care about, an extension of himself and a personal expression. To me, it's a waste of perfectly good money (if the car is overpriced, and most of them are).

Other than my parents (when I was a child), though, I've never been supported by anyone other than myself.

Last edited by mv on 31 Oct 2011, 7:25 am, edited 1 time in total.

That's a bit harsh. After all, one needs to survive, and if they are good at something that earns them a lot of money, it doesn't mean they think it's the be all end all of everything, they're just fortunate.

Maybe it's because I'm a guy, but I am completely and utterly indifferent to a woman's socioeconomic status, it never even enters my mind to consider it. Yet many men seem to think that it's extremely important to women, is this at all true?

Materialism and gold digging or wanting financial security/being looked after are two very different things.

Women are more likely to want to be "looked after" than men from what I see, but Men and women who value material objects and money are around the same amount regardless of gender.

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I don't think I understand your question, Grisha. Is a woman's socioeconomic status important to the woman herself? Probably, if she's gotten dependent on eating and shelter and pesky stuff like that.

Are you asking if a man's socioeconomic status is important to a woman? All women are different. To me, it's never mattered, as long as I'm not expected to support him. My own personal bias is that everyone should support themselves. If they can get together and support a family together, that's great, but everyone should support themselves, to the extent that they can.

Humperdinck is not saying they would turn a person away just on money, Humperdinck is saying, he would more likely turn a person away if they made lots of money. Humperdinck gets very flustered easily around money and expensive things,and it makes him very ill at ease. Humperdinck has dated people of high socio economic status before but they did not flaunt their money. They loved spending lots of money on their hobbies which Humperdinck found interesting (building replica medieval weaponry).

Its not as important as most people think.

Whenever someone finds out about my monetary resources Im always asked how is it that a guy like me that can afford x doesn´t have a girlfriend yet?.

The answer is always the same while money can help in quite a few areas if someone isnt attracted to you theres nothing you can do about it and my "social abilities" dont help at attracting others.

You cant buy love same way you cant buy a friendship... and those that say so have no experience on this field and have huge misconceptions about money´s importance on establishing a relationship of any kind.


The whole “It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife” may have been that way when it was written but things have changed.

not even a little important. the forum is littered with my protestations that ''i was the major breadwinner for many year in my marriage'' lol. nonetheless my former husband has made 25 to 50% more than me for the last couple years and will likely make double my income this year, but i don't want his money even though he just wants to be fair... on the dating scene, my decisions were NOT based on monetary matters, therefore I dated the guy who worked at BestBuy vs. the one with a private jet.

Awwww, spongy! Some early morning Austen!

It's Cinderella who marries the prince, not the high-earning lawyer b***h. The delusional projection that men care about how much money women make is probably one of the more damaging ones. They waste their best years working on a career that ultimately means f**k all and hurts their chances of getting the men they really want.

Really. Wow.

I don't think any successful, intelligent woman would want a husband who tries to make her someone else.

That reminds me of something funny that happened a few months ago. I had a meeting with a business colleague in a very exclusive area of Newport Beach, where what you drive is VERY important. I walked with him back to his car (a black Range Rover of course) and he was puzzled why his car was not responding to his door opener - turned out it wasn't his black Range Rover!

I've had guys who have expected me to be impressed by their car, too. Seriously, who the bleep cares.