What quirks, habits, etc, have NTs pointed out to you?

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I was just wondering. With me, a couple of people have pointed out how much I jump into other people's conversations (when I thought that was just called ''joining in''). Also I have a very strange habit of pointing to people's faces and laughing (not strangers, just friends), and one of my friends have said, ''don't point and laugh at me''. I realised how odd I was being and now I feel like a twat.

What odd quirks or whatever have you been told you do? Has it made you feel sort of ashamed?

"What's wrong with your eyebrows?"
"What's with the face?"
"What are you doing with your hands?"
"Why do you always look so angry?"
"You walk funny. Why do you walk like that?"
"Why don't you smile back at people?"

Just to name a few I had to deal with often as a child, and even now. -_-

Everyone says I give too much science info in a conversation...........I feel the relevant science is important for mah peeps to know

I can't control the volume of my voice.

I say rude things which aren't meant to be rude.

I stare at people.

Hmm I used to have many quirks that I wasn't aware of but as time has gone on and I've socialized more and more, I've become more aware and better at understanding body language, humor and conversing with people but it did take discipline. I'm still insecure and conscious about some quirks but I've learned that awareness does help but I've just learned to embrace them over time and accept it's who I am.

A few would be
1. Rarely smiling, not expressing emotion which makes people assume I'm depressed when I'm simply deep in thought, not knowing how to respond in certain situations,.
2. Taking jokes literally or not at all in some cases or misinterpreting something.
3. Interlocking my fingers when I'm feeling nervous or using hand gestures.
4. Saying something that may be brutally honest, unnecessary and inappropriate.
5. Randomly laughing at something in my head, even in public.
6. I also sometimes tend to blank out when someone is trying to tell me something and sometimes my mind can fixate on something else that I'm thinking about so I'll miss the point the other person was trying to make.

I've been told that people can't tell whether I'm being serious or joking. People have implied that I can be somewhat mechanical or robotic when performing tasks. It's also been pointed out to me that, at times, I can become so focused on a task that I block out nearly everything else going on at the time.

What quirks have been pointed out to me? All of them!

Things people say:

"Your'e making me nervous, will you please smile?"

"I was kidding."

"Are you listening to me?"

"You're an as*hole, you always talk to me like I'm stupid or something." This one almost made me cry, I had no idea he felt like that.

"How the f**k do you remember that?"

"It's not polite to stare."

"That was like three subjects ago!"

People at work have adapted to my hyper-focus thing, they've learned to not bother me when I'm doing it. Well, everyone leaves me alone when I'm hyper-focused except for my manager, and he's the only one I deal with regularly who even knows about my diagnosis.

"How do you know about that?", to which I reply, perplexed and appalled: "I got interested in it and read about it". I cannot truly comprehend, to this day, that not all people do this, even if they are interested in anything but current teenager-culture/whatever-culture-they-live-in.

"You don't show that you're in trouble".

People said to me things like:
" I'm kidding/joking."
"I can't tell if you're happy/excited about it."
"I can't tell if you're serious or joking."
Or generally: "I can't read your emotions properly."
"You're being sarcastic." (When I'm being honest.)
"You're words are open to interpretation."
"You always tell things straight away/directly without introduction."which can come of as strange I'm being told.
"When you're angry, you explode." (someone once called me "manic-aggressive", whatever this implies).
"Your smiles look unnatural/exaggerated."
"Your very mechanic when you do things."(e.g. playing an instrument).
"Talking to you is like talking to a wall."
"You laugh even when there's nothing to laugh about." This happens when I'm laughing about something unrelated in an inappropriate situation.

Also this. It has been pointed out to me that whenever I don't know something, it's predictable that I'll go and search for more information about it which I do but I didn't know it was unusual.

........and so on. There are surely many more...but this ones are the ones I recall for now.

1. That I always look angry or sad
2. I have no emotion on my face, which contradicts the first one
3. I don't reciprocate other people's feelings
4. They've pointed out some of my stimming before
5. That I'm too literal sometimes
6. I'm "too quiet"

Smiles are free

You should not interupt people

No one cares about stop-motion animation stop talking about it.

Why are you telling me this? No one wants to hear this!

It took you 10 minutes to tell me that, a simple yes or no would have worked

People would like you more if you smiled more often

We are waiting for you to come into work shooting

How can you eat the samething everyday?

You should not wear the same color shirt evryday people will think you are wearing the same shirt everyday.

I couldn't think of anything specific so I asked my mother if she could think of anything and she mentioned the weird noise I make in my throat when my throat bothers me to itch the inside of my throat. When I do that people look at me oddly and if they try to imitate can't seem to.

There is no video. I don't know how to make just an audio file. When I replayed it it sounds like some sort of animal but I'm not sure what.

http://s1123.photobucket.com/albums/l549/onezumiyoukai/?action=view&current=111109-140220.mp4

Last edited by hanyo on 09 Nov 2011, 2:08 pm, edited 2 times in total.

There is a guy who everytime he sees my friend laughs at her and she is getting completely paranoid. Maybe he has Aspergers too?!

Being quiet (I then point out that I generally say very little and this is not different to normal)!
I do a very fast walk/jog when I walk
I have been caught just staring into space with eyes defocussed

"you've said this before"
"you look pissed off."
"you ramble a lot."
"stop questioning my emotes"
"that was a rhetorical question"
"how's that funny?"
"why are you laughing?"
"why cant you explain why you're upset?"
"why do you cry so much?"
"what are you looking at?"
"why are you staring?"
"You don't have to get upset over ________" <-- this one frustrates me because more often then not, I'm not upset, and the times that I am upset they came to the wrong conclusion of why I'm upset which upsets me more.

Well I don't do it randomly, I just do it when the other person has said something funny, or when they've said something what I've agreed with 100 percent. It's just a gesture I have, but people don't like it.


I also get people commenting on why I put my hand close to my mouth when talking (mostly when sitting down at a table). It's because when I'm nervous, my lips tend to go wobbly and people can see that and makes me look ugly, so when I put my hand there I feel more confident and I can speak clearly and confidently, and it works. Also I worry that my breath smells, even though I look after my teeth, I still worry about it. I have a fear of having bad hygiene.