What is the 'normal' feeling & action?

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I've read posts on Wrongplanet for a while but i've never posted but i thought that people like me might have the answer im searching for!

Im usually considered to be, well, insane. i do stupid s**t, and (no exaggeration) everyone is a little afraid of me.
Now there is this one girl who never treats me like everyone does, shes allways been kind and understanding, possibly my only true friend!
While i've allways thought she was beautiful and wonderful, i've never realised just how much i've thought that, and care for her.
I'm 99% sure that she could never like me in anyway other than a friend no matter how much i care for her, partially because im not what you would call attractive!
I enjoy where i am with her now but i'm jelous of the friendship/possible relationship she has with another guy
and i think im doing my usual angry/scary thing but its directed at her which i really don't want to do yet keeps happening.

Shes the kind of person where im thinking of just telling her how i feel so that she understands why im fustrated & acting differently but wouldn't let that get in the way of the friendship.

The questions relating to the above problem is:
1. is it normal for a aspie to have an really intense obsession with the person they like or is it just a srangeness i alone possess? ( i don't mean stalking!)
2. when you feel that way do you get reallly agressive/unable to know what to do etc? ( is this an aspie thing? adolesent thing? male thing ?)
3. what would other people do in my situation?
4. Personally i bloody care for her so much that if she was with another guy i would still be able to take comfort in the fact she was happy with them is that normal thought process? (obviously still be horid but i would take comfort in that knowledge)
5. is it also normal for aspies to be un-emotional about everyone and everything ? For instance, it seems harsh but i find it difficult to care about my own mother yet i can care for melissa a great deal.

Typing all this out is actually quite good for venting! thanks for reading this and i hope i haven't offended!

Most guys have this problem. They will get stuck on certain girls hoping that one day they will return the same feelings. It's completely natural, but the problem is it doesn't work. Men tend to think logically and therefore think that if they show a lot of love and affection for women that they will feel the same way when the truth is almost the exact opposite. Why do you think women seem to have this illogical, irrational attraction to men who abuse them?

As for being attractive, are you talking about physical attractiveness? If so, keep in mind that women aren't nearly as big on looks as men are. Women are more attracted to personality. That's why it's common to see short fat ugly dudes to have hot women crawl all over them while guys who look like Brad Pitt complimented with a full six-pack and everything else have trouble just sparking one woman's interest.