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08 Dec 2011, 6:46 pm

Man, these drive me nuts.

Room mate just asks: "have you seen J or K?" (the other room mates)

I'm totally flustered for a minute. Of course I have seen them before. I live with them. "Define time range" I tell him awkwardly.

"Ummm....recently?" he says.

That doesn't help. Another pause. How long ago was recent for him? "Ummm, last I saw J was maybe 3 hrs ago. K before that."

Urgh. Why can he not ask direct question, like "when was last time you saw J or K?" that, I could answer without thinking about,.


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08 Dec 2011, 6:48 pm

While the first few times may be confusing at first. It would be safe to assume that when you are asked if you have seen J or K that he pretty much means "recently" or "how long ago."



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08 Dec 2011, 7:06 pm

I constantly stumble upon this kind.



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08 Dec 2011, 7:07 pm

ashura96 wrote:
While the first few times may be confusing at first. It would be safe to assume that when you are asked if you have seen J or K that he pretty much means "recently" or "how long ago."


I find that some knowledge of this nature is lost "in the moment." So knowing is not always a cure.



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08 Dec 2011, 7:10 pm

Yes, I could see that happening. It happens to me every now and then if I were to be asked a seemingly random question that I would not expect to be asked at the time - only focusing on the exact words used at the time.



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08 Dec 2011, 7:16 pm

Verdandi wrote:
ashura96 wrote:
While the first few times may be confusing at first. It would be safe to assume that when you are asked if you have seen J or K that he pretty much means "recently" or "how long ago."


I find that some knowledge of this nature is lost "in the moment." So knowing is not always a cure.


Yeah, like that. In an abstract sense, I know what he's asking. But I'm painfully aware of how I am faced with so many potential questions that I stumble, hard, before I can answer.


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08 Dec 2011, 7:27 pm

ashura96 wrote:
Yes, I could see that happening. It happens to me every now and then if I were to be asked a seemingly random question that I would not expect to be asked at the time - only focusing on the exact words used at the time.


Yeah, it happens to me all the time.



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08 Dec 2011, 7:37 pm

Verdandi wrote:
ashura96 wrote:
While the first few times may be confusing at first. It would be safe to assume that when you are asked if you have seen J or K that he pretty much means "recently" or "how long ago."


I find that some knowledge of this nature is lost "in the moment." So knowing is not always a cure.


This happens to me as well. Normal people don't seem to understand that even if I understand what they're saying, I sometimes a need a moment or two to process it.


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08 Dec 2011, 7:52 pm

Burnbridge wrote:
"Define time range"


Sounds exactly like Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory. :lol:

Not that I want to derail the thread with that debate. 8)


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09 Dec 2011, 1:34 am

"Last time I saw him was this morning when he left."


That's how I usually answer it but most of the times I say "no" because I haven't seen the person lately even though I may have saw him when I first came into work. Then I sometimes say "I don't know" which sounds stupid but things don't always come out right.



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09 Dec 2011, 1:38 am

Oh, that's a good idea. Maybe I can train myself to give oblique answers to oblique questions.

Q: "Have You seen J or K?"
A: "I saw them before they left."

It might even be mistaken for wit, which would buy me some time to get stuff sorted out in my head.

I do the "I don't know" answer a lot too, LG


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09 Dec 2011, 1:59 am

I answer confusing questions honestly, often with "I don't know what that means." I don't let people give me problems.



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09 Dec 2011, 2:53 am

Burnbridge wrote:
Man, these drive me nuts.

Room mate just asks: "have you seen J or K?" (the other room mates)

I'm totally flustered for a minute. Of course I have seen them before. I live with them. "Define time range" I tell him awkwardly.

"Ummm....recently?" he says.

That doesn't help. Another pause. How long ago was recent for him? "Ummm, last I saw J was maybe 3 hrs ago. K before that."

Urgh. Why can he not ask direct question, like "when was last time you saw J or K?" that, I could answer without thinking about,.


Your conversation could've been easily shortened to...

"have you seen J or K?"

"Ummm, last I saw J was maybe 3 hrs ago. K before that."



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09 Dec 2011, 3:17 am

fraac wrote:
I answer confusing questions honestly, often with "I don't know what that means." I don't let people give me problems.

I've been doing that to my mother a lot lately, now that she knows about asperger's, I figured hey, why not. As a result, she has started speaking very slowly to me. I think I might revert back to pretending I understand everything.....


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