The "Don't Know What I Want for Christmas Blues"..

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Whenever the Christmas season rolls around, I always dread getting asked by parents and relatives about what I want for Christmas...bcuz I often just don't know. Everyone else is looking forward to buying that new TV, the latest style of Ipod/Iphone, the new video games (my 13 - year - old nephew wants "Assassins Creed Revelations 3" and one other "Mature" VG...uuugghhh...my stepmom's not buying either of them for him, tho ) but there's nothing available on today's market that I particularly want. I really don't mind practical gifts, like school supplies, hoodies, but when I say "I'm not sure, but I'll let you know if I can think of anything," people sometimes seem impatient or dissapointed.

I don't want the latest style of Iphone, I have a cell phon that suits my needs just fine, and I have a phobia of telephones besides. And I don't want an Ipad, bcuz they're terribly expensive, and from what I can tell, they don't do anything that a regular computer can't do. Except for Word documents...my nephew told me you need to buy a Word app for the Ipad, which must be a pain...

What I really like as presents are stuffed animals...but whenever I ask for those, my parents sometimes say, "Don't you want anything else?" or, "you have so many of them already." But strangely enough, they don't mind buying a stuffed animal for me as a present when it's their idea. Last Christmas my dad and stepmom gave me a small Jellycat plush, and my mom gave me two baby Moncchichis and a sock monkey. I also got a small digital camera that I love and use the heck out of...my mom screwed up big - time in parenting me more than once during my teens, but she seems to understand me a lot better now that I'm an adult.

I think I've avoided the worst of the "Don't Know What I Want for Christmas" awkwardness this year - I told my aunt that I'm interested in the "Art of Cars 2" book that's out, and my dad found a VCR/DVD player...I was pretty excited about that; I didn't even know they were making those anymore. I also hinted towards wanting "Transformers 3" on DVD... I find that when I'm "surprised" on Christmas, I'm very happy with what I get...it makes me uncomfortable to direct people's shopping for me....to me, it's like what Cartman does to all his Bday party guests in the "Damien" episode of South Park. But if I DON'T tell people what I want, or if I give a nebulous answer like, "Not sure at the moment," or "You know what I like" or "Surprise me" people seem to get annoyed.

It's like this on my birthday, too - for my 17th birthday, it was a week before and my stepmom made a snappy remark that we were going to "cancel my birthday" if I didn't think of what I wanted to do for it soon. What did she WANT me to want?....I just wanted a cake and a few presents.

I'm just not assertive....I'm not a me me me I want I want kind of person...but maybe my life would be easier if I was...I know my middle half - sister has no problem making a Christmas list...she gets all these teen magazines, looks at the breakdowns of all the clothes/accessories that all the teen/20 - something stars buy, and puts those on her list... My niece does sort of the same thing.

Is there anyone else who has this same problem during this season?

I'm more afraid of what would be too expensive. I make my list as simple as possible and only include a couple of things I want.

I know what I want for Christmas. It's just that I feel awkward asking for things that are related to my special interests, because the interests that I've had as a kid were frowned upon. I won't be going up to my mum and saying this:

"Hey mum! I want a bunch of Kinks CDs, a lava lamp and two die cast Routemasters!! !! ! "

MakaylatheAspie - I do the same thing...I hate to feel like someone's breaking the bank when shopping for me. I hate being thought of as "high - maintenance" when all I want to do is just fade into the background and be free to do my thing.

CockneyRebel - Yeah, I sometimes worry about what people think of my interests, too...like I worry that they'll think I'm childish for asking for Cars stuff, Disney DVDs, and plushies, like I mentioned in my OP.

Last edited by LtlPinkCoupe on 12 Dec 2011, 8:58 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I remember not being sure of what I wanted for Christmas, too. Then I thought of how much I'd been thinking of how nice it would be to have an mp3 player to listen to during my blow-off times, so I included that on my list. Then I included some movies, some clothes, an almanac, and a new calendar.

I never want anything. My parents ask and ask and ask for a list of stuff I want. I never know what to tell them. So I have to think of stuff so they won't buy me a bunch of crap that I don't want and will have to pretend to enjoy when I open it up on the 25th. And then I feel guilty because I never have any money to buy anyone else anything because I have no job, and even worse, people put my name on gifts they give to others, so the person receiving the gift will thank me for it, and they know goddamned well that I didn't get it for them.

I hate this. I hate Christmas. F**k you, Santa.

I only want one thing and it isn't a personal gift at all.

We usually have a traditional Christmas dinner, but not last year. What I'd like as part of that traditional Christmas dinner is a goose. In the US, it can be very difficult to find a goose.

You can find them on the Internet, but at very high prices. I found one place that sells geese on the Internet but they want something like $400 for a goose!

I've heard that WalMart sometimes has them. Since hearing that, I always look to see if they have geese whenever I go but haven't found one yet.

I always ask for video games and I think this year I don't want any. I'm getting kind of sick and tired of these new video games.

I think I might ask for this.



or this

I'd rather buy gifts for my family and relatives than receive them. I'm not going to be asking my mum for German stuff. She hates Germany.

I like buying gifts for people too, but I always get the feeling nobody ever really likes what I get for them.

For little boys, it needs to either be something that makes a lot of noise (a set of toy drums is perfect), a lot of pieces (jigsaw puzzles), or something that is more and more seen as being politically incorrect (toy guns). For little girls, a stuffed animal goes over well and the parents don't mind it as much.

I don't really have any kids in my family to buy for (except my new baby neice ) just my mother and brothers and sister who are all adults.

Adults are so much harder to shop for than children. They won't tell you that they didn't like what you got them they just put it away or get rid of it when they think you won't notice.

I just always tell people money. Most anything I want I'd have to get myself because it's either too expensive, very specific with lots of choices, or a combination of the two.

I feel like money is so impersonal. I'd rather somebody buy something for me to show that they made the effort to think about what I'm into and get me something they thought I would like to have. It's the thought that should really count in my opinion.

I'd rather if people would get me nothing instead of waiting their time & money getting me something I have no use for.

My wife still gets me inexpensive toys like wind ups.
My favorites are two that do the splits.

I like going to Walmart and making up blues songs as well as playing Christmas Music on my harmonica. (During Christmas season).

Harris.