What to do? Desperate need of help.

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How do I find a in hospice care facility for a disorganized schizophrenic who supposedly is autistic? I think this child is wrongly diagnosed. A treatment facility near the area.

I'm near Raleigh, Fayetteville, NC area, and I need desperate help. Kid has been in jail, she has been in a psychiatric hospital, she has been in the hospital. WTF else do I do. And god forbid, if you call anyone for help, they all seem to be doing a bang of job of nothing.

Cops have been called numerous of times. And if this chit keeps up, it is going to ruin any chance I have left for any career in my life, with domestic dispute everyday after they run a background check on me.

And my sister, she tells the cops, it's all my fault. My dad, It's all my fault. My brother, it's all my fault.

"I have to find a new home, I just got my walking papers" Her....

No what I said, "is get off your Arcc and find placement for this child. Didn't say you had to leave. You can't handle her, and I not going to have you ruin my life and my career, and my house, because you never disciplined your child. Stop blaming me and Stop using me as your excuse. And, stop ruining my life.......................

What exactly is the situation? From what I can gather, this is your sisters child and your sister and her child are living with you and causing problems?

If thats not the case, please explain the situation. Whose child it is, how old, if they live with you or not, how they are bothering your life and career, etc. and I might could be of more help.

What I would suggest is call child protective services and ask for a social worker, explain the situation, and then ask for advice or help. That's based on my assumption in the first sentence. Also, if they are living with you, I'd ask them to move out.

Her mom pays rent. And yes, It's Mom and Daughter. They seem to try to kill each other everyday. The social worker that is involved, is looking for a foster family. What she needs, Is hospice care. and Re-evaluation of her condition. Everyone says she's fine, and is just unruly child, who should just keep giving her what she wants and give in to her demands. So, if she wants to stay up and watch movies till 4am, we should do that, just to keep her happy.

My career choice, which I doubt will ever happen, no thanks to these two, with my school is Forensic Science. So, I can just see what those background questions will sound like. With officers at my door everyday, every hour.

She has her good days, but she has her bad days, her child is aggressive. Last night, she grabbed for my throat. Child is 16, twice my size and twice my weight. Twice her mom's weight and twice her size

Mom 4'10-124pds
Daughter 6'1 150-170pds
Me 4'11 83pds

Whose name is on the lease? If both of yours is, then you are stuck until the lease is up unless you move out and sublet your share, if your sister approves. If only hers is, then you can move out. If only yours is, then you can legally ask her to leave even if she pays rent, unless you have a written contract with her.

Otherwise, I would keep calling the police every time she physically attacks you or destroys property. Eventually they will put her in juvie or some place to get the help she needs. Grabbing you by the throat is assault 3. If she breaks something in a rage, call them. Destruction of property. Both of those are domestic violence. Call the cops every single time. It will not make you look bad at all. Of course you will have some flack from your sister and family, but if nobody else will do anything, you have every right to have peace in your home.

If it's your sisters place and you live with her, I'd advise you to get out of there asap.

No, it's my house. I own it. Her daughter breaks things constantly, attacks constantly in my house [when she is told no, or that it's time for bed], she terrorizes my dog, I keep calling the cops, and the officer last night, asked me "How long do I plan to keep this up for" Like it's my fault. And I told my sister while they were here that she had to go, And my sister whined "But, I don't do anything to you or the house", Like it's about her. Never said she had to. Just said she needs to get on the ball and find suitable placement. Her daughter has over stayed her welcome. The child,shows that she does know right from wrong, especially when the officers come to visit her.

Yuh, I would gladly throw them to the street, but she is my sister and she has no place to go and she is paying rent.

I don't see a point in replacing anything, until their both gone. It's will only get destroyed again, when she has her fit of rage.

Already catching the family flak.

Then you need to decide which is more important to you. Keeping your sister off the street or keeping your life and home in one piece. If you choose to wait it out, there is no telling how long it will be. You can legally tell your sister that she has until this months rent is used to to find a place to go, and if she doesn't then you will call the police to get them out. Or you can wait and hope she decides to leave.

She obviously doesn't see a problem so she may not want to leave.

When the cops come, do you show them the broken objects? Do you show them the marks she's left on you? You need to tell the cops you want to press charges.

Maybe go down to the police station before another incident and talk to an officer, tell him the problem and that the cops aren't taking you seriously. They can't put her in an institution or anything for you, but they can arrest her for you. Maybe if they are told by another cop to take you seriously, they will arrest her when they come out.

Yeah, they see the destruction and she even does the destruction while their here, and I showed the DSS worker the bruises she left on me when she tried to break my arm one night.

So, they know.

She has court in January to see a judge. For her past actions. It's only been 3 days since she's been out of Juvi.

I also, started video taping her actions, of when the officers are here and the minute they leave. Because as soon as they leave, she has this attitude of, that ooh, their gone now, I can go back to what I was doing.

Have you said to the cops "Please remove her from my home tonight/today and I want to press charges"?

Sometimes you have to do that. Also, there is no telling what your sister might be saying to them.

I'm pretty sure, the officers aren't listening to my sister. She's over dramatic, on everything with her daughter and herself. lol Kid is crazy because she's crazy, and always plays this blame game. It's everyone elses fault but hers, no one understands me, blah blah. Both spoiled little kids who get whatever the heck they want. Even with my dad. She cries to dad, it's all my fault and it's my job to help them. God forbid, if she is ever wrong, or someone puts her in her place, or it will turn into the, the battle of "I'm right", and you will submit to me because I won't shut up until you do submit me. ugh. Those two both need to be institutionalized.

I haven't pressed charges because she's family, but, I did make her mother press charges to teach her a lesson, which didn't work. I know her mom can't take the charges back.

Then until you either press charges, or put them out, this will go on, I'm sorry to say. If you can't make the mother see that the kid needs help, then you can't do anything. You can't put the kid away yourself because the mother has custody.

You have three choices it seems.

1. Kick them out at the end of the month
2. Press charges
3. Smile and keep taking it

You could tell your parents that you are putting them out at the end of the month and that if they want to help her, they need to get on the ball and start helping. That would at least give her a chance to get help from them.

It's up to you.

Yeah, tomorrow I have to look at a house that my dad is going to buy for her tomorrow...

Like I told him, even if I'm not in the equation, their still going to get the cops involved, and they still will be at each others throats.

My only fear is that one day, this kid will get so out of hand, won't realize what she's doing and kill her mom by accident. Trying to stop it now, in it's tracks and put the fear of god in her. Doesn't seem like juv jail did anything.

It's a no win situation.

Here's the aftermath of a bruise that this kid has done to her mother. That was from shoving her into a wall numerous times. When I step in, I get punched in the mouth or she starts her kicking, and grabbing for throats. Something neurologically is wrong with this child and it is not autism, like these cracker jack doctors claim.


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[ex]Disorganized schizophrenia is one of several types of schizophrenia, a chronic mental illness in which a person loses touch with reality (psychosis). Disorganized schizophrenia is marked by thoughts, speech and behavior that are inappropriate and don't make sense.

Disorganized schizophrenia is considered a more severe type of schizophrenia because people with this condition may be unable to carry out routine daily activities, such as bathing and meal preparation. It may be hard to understand what people with disorganized schizophrenia are saying. Also, frustration and agitation may cause them to lash out.

Disorganized thinking. Disorganized thinking causes illogical, nonsensical thought patterns. This disorganization is also noticeable in the way an affected person talks. A person with disorganized thinking may not be able to stay on track in a conversation, instead jumping from one unrelated idea to another, so that it's impossible to understand what the person is trying to say. Making up words is common. Written communications also are very disorganized.

Grossly disorganized behavior. The disorganized behavior common to this type of schizophrenia causes severe problems in an affected person's ability to function in daily life. Bathing, dressing appropriately or preparing meals may be impossible. Other common issues include confronting others without logical reason, wearing many layers of clothing on a warm day, having a very messy appearance or engaging in sexual behavior in public.

Absent or inappropriate emotional expression. A person who lacks emotional expression (flat affect) has a blank face and doesn't make eye contact or use common body language. Although an affected person may show emotion at times, the person's range of expression is very limited compared with others. Emotions inappropriate to the situation also are common, such as acting silly or laughing loudly during a serious event.
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