Do people with Asperger get angry easily?

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I have troubles expressing my emotions and often people ask me to justify myself, the reason i became very angry and i can't control myself. I have been blamed for being too rigid and distant because i can't empathize (apparently) with other people's feelings. If people try to give me advices without asking them for, i react really bad because i believe they are arrogant and don't care but about themselves.
Does that makes me a bad person or it is a aspies trait?

Here's my opinion, and I say this all nicely, just trying to be helpful.

I have felt a lot of the same things you describe. It does not make you a bad person, they are likely traits associated with Aspergers.

However, what would make you a bad person is not trying to STOP doing these behaviors, in my opinion. I used to be like that, but I knew it was bad, hurtful to others, etc. I didn't want to hurt anyone, scare anyone, etc. so I, through a whole lot of work and self control, have become master of my anger. It might not be easy, and I don't know how I can help you overcome it - I think everyone has to find their own ways to control it.

Just reminding, I say this as helpful. I'm not calling you a bad person at all. It's probably because of Aspergers that you have these traits, but the fact that they are Aspergers traits does not give you an excuse to act this way. My opinion, others can feel free to argue, but I stand by it.

I don't have an official diagnosis yet but, I tend to have angry outbursts when interrupted, when someone asks me questions I can't answer, when people don't understand what I am saying and when I have to explain how things are done.
It's not that I get mad, I just feel irritated and that comes out as angry, loud tone...afterwards I feel sorry for that.
But, when I was a child, sometimes I became violent. I remember my grandfather pulling jokes on me; I jumped on him and started biting and scratching him.

The problem is that i am not doing something bad to upset someone. The only reason people blame me is because i'm too honest and i can't fake my feelings. They laugh, make jokes, talk but most of the time i don't like their jokes, the way they act, etc. so they say i'm too distant or ask me why i don't talk & laugh with them

I get angry/irritated easily when people say or do stupid things that don't make any sense to me.

Not really. I do good. only time I have ever gotten angry easily is when I am having a bad day or in the middle of something or when people push my buttons. As a kid I had therapy to stay calm so I wouldn't get angry and throw things or hit. I must say I get angry easily when I am under stress.

Sometimes i'm afraid i could do something bad because i have a lot of negative emotions and i'm afraid to express my anger.
People see i'm different and they want to change me and that makes me really mad.

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I'm usually pretty mellow actually. I do have a few triggers that get me really angry, stuff like religion or general ignorance, people using bad grammar around me just to wind me up(my friends suck...) or tech misbehaving.

I get angry when I'm trying to get my point across and my mum doesn't understand. She doesn't let me finish, which gets me more flustered, so I start again but in a louder and higher voice (since I'm frustrated) and then she goes, ''sssshhhhhhhh!! !'' which makes me yell, ''no, just listen!'' and then I start again and she still interrupts, then she yells, ''we have this conversation every day!'', even though it's the first or second time I have ever brought it up and just want an answer, so that gets me mad.....

Lately I seem to want an answer for everything, and if I don't get an answer, I get really angry.

As for me, I think I am very slow to anger, but it is easy to do so if that makes any sense. Since I do not care much about... almost anything that does not concern me or what I do, I have a rather indifferent attitude towards profane insults. However, if you know how to push my buttons, I can get really, really angry, and I am - usually! - not the yelling, loud kind of angry type. I get quiet, tense, and my eyes start to look empty, which people told me is very, very scary. They kinda compared it to a lion or tiger getting ready to pounce its prey. Not that I am that much into such metaphors, but actually describes the feeling quite succeededly.