Is it possible to be happy and alone?

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It's a basic human need, and try as I might, I just cannot find anykind of midset that is content with being alone.

It's not that I've given up. My social skills have come a long way, and I've worked hard on them. The problem I've encountered is I cannot change who I am. This is important because no matter how good your social skills are, if your personality doesn't fit with someone elses the right way, it won't work. Simple.

I'm too damn old to change who I am. Other people spent their teenage years partying and whatnot, I spent it being beaten up and reading in the library. Heck, I probably got beaten up IN the library, by the libraryians. That's about how kool I was. I just do not percieve the world the same way as other people. No one likes my personality, and I can't change it.


Mabye one day I will cross a genuinly compatible person . But untill that time; how do you go it alone? Has anyone ever succeeded?

Soz if this has been asked before.

The only way I survived being alone was by convincing myself that one day I wouldn't be. And it turned out to be true; I met a person who restored my faith in humanity and became my best friend. There are people out there you are genuinely compatible with, maybe it doesn't seem that there are many right now (everyone feels alienated when they're lonely)... but they're out there. You just have to be patient and build a life for yourself so that when you meet these people you'll have something to share with them (and so you can find some degree of happiness while you're waiting). Learn how to distract yourself with your hobbies/interests by burrowing into them, then become super involved and maybe you'll meet like-minded individuals that way? Try not to be too bitter about it, people don't always understand the differences in each other and can sometimes very, very cruel towards one another... but once you have people to share the world with, the years you spent alone don't seem to matter at all anymore.
Keep your chin up

Is it possible to be happy alone? Dunno, ask a hermit

I know how you feel, not that that is any consolation or comfort ...

There are plenty of us hermits who are totally happy being left to our own devices, especially those of us like myself who became one on both the intellectual and emotional levels. Sure I can talk to people if I want to, but its all just motions to me. Ill interact to a degree needed to survive and that is about it. Do I develop anything in the way of feelings for people nope, not unless you are like the select 1 or 2 out of billions.

If you are curious about what I mean bout shunning/rejecting society on an intellectual level the best I can explain it is as being my own beliefs and whatnot are incompatible with "Mainstream" society. And in my own mind, society and go blow itself to kingdom come for all I care, the world would be better off as a whole. (And yep, I am officially a Malthusian (look it up if you don't know) and existential nihilist (life has no "INHERENT" meaning, you yourself have to give it one))

Thanks guys : )