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Hi, my name's Jess, and I'm English.

So, my Dad thought I should join a forum to do with my problem, since I'm so obsessed with another forum site. I've fallen out with him recently, though.

Anyway, I'm 15, I like rock music, and I often get easily upset.

Welcome, enjoy your stay.

Hello EnglishJess. Welcome to WP. Hope you like it here.

Whereabouts are you from in England? England's a big place and by far the largest constituent country of the United Kingdom.

Welcome Jess

Hello Jess, always good to see another Brit on here, hope you enjoy it here, most people are friendly and welcoming.

Hi, I'm new too! I'm also English. You must be really sad that your dad's not seeing eye to eye with you. It upsets me when I fall out with my family.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Hi, Jess. I am new here too. I have a son (10) with AS, and I also have it (self-diagnosed). Much better to know now than find out when you are 44 years old, believe me.

On the obsession with forum sites, me too. Turn it into a positive. Learn as much as you can about things that interest you, but try to focus on the non-destructive types of interests. I know its hard to stick with things that don't interest, but hopefully coping will become interesting enough to maintain your focus.

It's not so much of a problem, by the way. In learning how to work with my son, I found that it's more of a challenge to make people understand that it is biologically impossible (or really more like highly improbable) for someone with autism or Aspergers to continually focus on something that is not interesting to them. I can't even count the number of times me, or my son, looked away from his mother to see what just happened on TV and completely ignored her. It took years for her to understand that it was not intentional.

Of course, we all have to learn how to deal with disinteresting stuff (like for me, 19th century British literature. Sorry!) Learn as much as you can about what is in your control and what is not (e.g. what are you biologically illequipt to do vs. what you would just rather not deal with). And, by the way, that's your Dad's job too. I know it's tough for you, but it's tough for him as well. There isn't very much literature out there right now, nor doctors well versed in dealing with family interactions with high functioning autistics. Try making some time with him to learn together, perhaps watch a video about your condition together, and then talk about how it made the both of you feel, and then make a plan on what each of you is going to do in the future to help you. And, by all means, use the resources on this site to learn!

By the way, and sorry for sounding like an old fuddy dad, but you may need to get to your mid-20s before you know if the "easily getting upset" thing is your condition or the hormones. And even if you figure that one out, he most likely won't. But in either case, it is mostly nature, not nurture.

Hey Jess! I'm Allie!

We're kinda similar. I'm 14 (15 in a couple of months), I love England (but I'm not English ), I looooove rock music, and I can get upset easily too. My dad and I don't have the best relationship, either. Hopefully your relationship with your dad gets better.

Welkome to WP

Mick

Well hello to you all! Since I'm new to this kind of forum (the other forum works differently), can you tell me how the site works please? In terms of posts and all that. Because I can't seem to find an FAQ to answer my questions.

Oh, and I was diagnosed when I was 4, although I didn't find out I had it myself until I was about 9.

Hello. I don't know how this forum works either and I've made hundreds of posts, so it's probably easy. Good luck finding whatever you need.

Google "phpBB FAQ" or similar. To be honest, you're doing fine and it's all mainly self-explanatory. There are things like emoticons and BBCodes to bolden and italicise your text, though, and make links and it's worthwhile getting the hang of those things. Also, if you're planning to be on the forum a lot, using the "view new posts" link at the top of every page is worthwhile too.

Welcome to WP! I hope you cheer up soon

Welcome to Wrong Planet. It's pretty easy to get addicted.

Hi!