Leaving one job, starting another

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(This might get a little rambling in sections, so I apologise in advance.)

After having worked at the same place for about three years I'll be leaving tomorrow. I've really enjoyed my current work and I would call several of the people there friends, in fact with about two exceptions outside of the work place I would call them my only friends, I'm usually at the office long over the hours I need to be there and it's provided a mostly stable environment for me that I've managed to feel comfortable in, something I've had trouble doing in the past. I feel really guilty about leaving and got extremely emotional when I had to tell my boss and other people there. Everyone agrees it was the right thing for me to do and if I look at it logically there wasn't really any other choice but to take the job I'm going to, it is more job security, money, the field I want to work in, if I do a good job during the initial probation period there's serious chances of progression. Still since I found out about it I've basically been withdrawing from a lot of people I know and been overly emotional about silly little things. I think this is partly because people keep being excited and happy for me that I've got this job, then becoming confused when they realise I don't share those feelings on it and it's too hard to keep trying to explain to everyone that the only thing I can focus on is the people I will miss from my current job. I will still be in contact with them via electronic means but due to the hours and location where I'll be working I'm unlikely to be able to arrange any face to face contact with them for a long time (and the contact I have with them is again the main source in my daily routine of such contact.)

Tomorrow is my last day at this place, then Monday will be my first day at the new one. I'm hoping for advice on how to avoid going into total meltdown/shutdown on both days and in the initial period in the new job, as while I feel guilty about leaving I will feel even worse if I somehow mess this job up, essentially I'll have left for nothing and let people down even more, so if anyone has been in a similar situation and has any tips I'd really appreciate it.