is it wrong of me

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hey well im new here but i have a question is it wrong not to get married im 20 i hate talking to people but my dad got mad when i said i never want to get married and i do want to have dogs i love them i help at the shelter but is it wrong i dont thanks

It's perfectly fine to not get married if you don't want to. No one else should tell you otherwise.

I don't see a problem with not wanting to get married. Why does your father care?

I didn't want to get married, drive a car, have kids, and many other things.. Somehow I have done most of it and plenty of other things I ought not to have done

Parents worry about how you'll look after yourself when they are gone or want grand children, in a roundabout way he is concerned about you.. Perhaps tell your dad that your not planning anything or looking, when the time is right and you meet the right person, who knows?

Jason

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You don't have to get married if you don't want to. Do what you think is right for you.

In my opinion it's wrong to get married just because of peer pressure but I have to admit that in the world we live in, there are a lot of social and political mechanisms which seek to control and influence individual behavior. Modern society basically tells you: "Do what I tell you to do or you will be a lonely outcast".

I say, however, is that you need to do what you want to do and not what society tells that you must do.

It's not wrong to not want to get married in my opinion. It's a personal choice. For me? I only want to get married if I meet the right person. I am not going to get married just to marry, but I am open to it if I meet the right person. However, if someone has no desire to get married, that is perfectly OK.

I highly doubt I'd ever get married. My personal choice is not to have children, and that's a marriage killer right there. I also don't care if I do marry or not. If it is a huge personal life choice that will give you contentment in the end it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Don't let someone else ruin your life because they think you'd be happier. They aren't you and they can't make that decision for you or force it upon you.

If fewer people got married who didn't want to anyway, maybe the divorce rate would go way down. Nobody should marry if they don't want to, whether it's because they just don't want the officialdom associated with it or they don't want the relationship in the first place. Marrying against your wishes seems like a terrible idea to me.

As for children, there are other people who don't want them either, so don't let your lack of desire to have them make you feel like nobody will want you. The decision to marry is really a separate question.

As for not wanting a relationship at all, if that's how you feel, then you shouldn't do that either. It's very strange to me that anyone should think somebody should want a relationship they don't want or be in one whether they like it or not.

Be true to yourself.

There's nothing wrong with it at all. If anything, your father should be proud that you're honest with yourself and others, and be thankful for the son he has, not the one he thinks he ought to have.

A wise man once wrote, "To thine own self, be true." Don't let anyone pressure you into anything you don't want to do.

I agree, if marriage and finding a partner wasn't forced or pressured on to people, marriage might have a better chance of working. I don't see the reason why people feel societal pressure to get married or have kids, marriage is a dated tradition that isn't relevant in this modern age. Marriage is also a concept that has lost value in certain senses, it used to revolve around the family or striving to do what is best for the family as a unit within logical reason.

I would say do what you feel is logical or rational for you, not anyone else, not your father or society. Most people in modern day society have lost the true meaning and value of marriage yet still feel societal pressure and anxiety towards it so personally I wouldn't worry about it. If you do marry, don't marry on the whim of an emotion and find someone that wants what you want logically and rationally in the long run.