When was the last time you had a friendship in real life?

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As the title says, when was the last time you had a friendship (in case if you don't have any friends)? For me, it was 6 years ago, and it wasn't a close relationship - we never 'hung out' - the only thing which defined our relationship was talking on the phone 1 hour a day and sometimes talking at school (maybe 1-2 times a week).

I don't think I've ever really had one. Probably when I was a teenager, but meh...

In RL, 21 years ago. Online, about a year ago, but I'm not sure if it's really possible to befriend people that you've never met in RL.

I don't really know. I guess it depends on how you define a friendship. I don't have anyone in real life that is not related to me that I talk to or do things with on a regular basis.

Depends on what you mean by friends. I have one friend that I've had since high school, but I don't think I could say we have a true "friendship." I can also say that I'm unsure how one measures such a thing, so I may be wrong.

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About 8 years ago

For me, it depends on how is the friendship defined.....

i haven't had any for about 7 years, and i'm super lonely

I have one good friend but I feel that she's slipping away and I'm having a hard time adjusting.

Two years ago, or I thought we were friends, turned out he was only using me.

I reconnected with a friend from high school late last year, and I have 2 other friends (one of whom is an Aspie) I hang out with, but the friendship I have with those 2 aren't very conventional I'd guess.

Before that I only had a few friends online and didn't see any RL friends for nearly 4 years.

A peer friend relationship that includes socializing? - probably never.

In high school there was a girl I was friends with, but we didn't socialize outside of school. I was friends with a girl several years ago who was 20 years younger than me, but she died.

My most recent online friendship seems to have cooled just over a year ago.

I still have some online contacts/relationships, but no one that I communicate with on a regular basis. I have a work partner at my job and we get along well most of the time, but I don't socialize with him or anyone at work. My husband is my only true friend outside of blood relatives.

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"a peer friend relationship that includes socializing" - How do you define socializing? Is, say, rolling toy cars on the ground with somebody socializing?

I had one, but the friendship ended last October. I finally stood up to her and told her (nicely) that even though she didn't say what she was saying to be hurtful, it was. She never responded and a week or so after she unfriended me on Facebook. We have not communicated since. There were other things prior to this that I told her I was not happy about (like her never agreeing to go out to eat where I wanted to go-she laughed that one off). I decided not to pursue the friendship any further if she was going to treat me that way.

Socializing in my definition would be when two or more people engage in the same activity (any activity) together. That would include talking on the phone, going to the movies (etc), and rolling toy cars on the ground.


I've never had a peer friendship that includes socializing. (A peer would be someone who was within a few years of my own age and same gender as mine).

ETA: But I don't define my work-related activities at work as socializing.

ETA: To clean up my definition of "socializing": when two or more people engage in the same activity (any activity) together for enjoyment and fun. ...(so if you are in a chemistry class, and you have a work partner, using a Bunsen burner for a class assignment with your partner in class is not socializing, but if you and your chem partner both liked to meet after school to mix chemicals in your garage, that would be socializing.) Hope I've cleared that up.

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24 years. Before & after that acquaintances only, except in grammar school but not sure if those were friends or play mates. I don't really know if I'm actually connecting with someone and when I'm being used. To be physically and financially safe I no longer reach out to people irl.