saying something but no-one responds

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if im in a group of people, and i say something to which nobody responds, does that mean they havent heard me (i do have a very low voice volume and frequency wise) or they dont care?


is there a rule to gauge how in certain situations?

This happens to me all the time. Most of the time I just speak too quietly, I guess.

They're focused on something else, someone louder and stupider....

Lots including my parents don't respond when I talk but then get annoyed when I repeat myself. Other times people really don't hear me & sometimes get upset with me because they didn't hear me tell them something. I try talking louder to be sure I'm heard but people think I'm talking too loud. I sure as hell haven't figured out those rules if they are any. I find it better to stay quiet & avoid people

most people can only be bothered to trod a familiar path, so when somebody says something that is novel or unfamiliar, most people will either tune it out, or misconstrue it somehow. speakers should consider the audience, and the audience should consider the source.

As far as I know, if they glance at you briefly before ignoring you, it's intentional. They heard what you said but they don't think it particularly relevant or interesting.
If no one even looks your way, they just didn't hear.
Remember to talk TO someone in particular, rather than AT a group of people. If you talk in their general direction, people don't seem to notice. If you talk TO someone, they have to respond.

Happens to me sometimes. It's extra annoying because when it happens the person closest to me will often repeat what I said (usually a joke) and everybody will laugh but they never mention that it came from me. It doesn't seem to be a volume thing because several of these people have also told me I have a lovely speaking voice (an odd compliment, but whatever). I guess they're too busy listening to my voice to hear what I'm actually saying?

This happens to me all the time. I end up feeling comfused and like people are pretending I'm not there. The worst times are when I'm at university and it's a group discussion. It is really hard for me to speak up in front of lots of people but sometimes I manage it and then people don't acknowledge that I've spoken. This includes the lecturers and sometimes I know they've heard me and I know that what I'm saying is right and fits in with what the topic is but they still don't acknowledge it and then I go red and panic and I feel like everyone is looking at me which is silly because they don't pay attention to me the rest of the time.

I think that if people don't acknowlege what you've said and you want them to then repeating yourself is acceptable because it isn't right for you to have to be left out at the times when you don't want to be. It's hard enough being in conversations without having the added difficulty of people not listening or hearing. I don't know why people can't just say 'I heard you but I'm not interested' or just say what ever is the reason that they don't respond. I'm not a conversational expert but I'm fairly certain that even if it isn't a direct question that is asked during a conversation that the other person is still meant to respond!

Used to happen to me a lot when I was at college and still seems to now. I don't know what the solution is though Thinking back to the college situation I wonder if one reason for them not responding is if someone seems like quite a shy or fragile (sorry can't think of a better word) person others may be a bit afraid of engaging you in any debate, or "taking you on" as it were? I'm not sure just thinking aloud...

I generally assume it's because I've said something so weird that they're speechless.

This has happend to me many times. I've also seen it happen to others plenty of times, too.

Sometimes it can be tricky to interject a comment at the right time as it can get lost in the momentum of the conversation or somebody might unintentionally (or possibly intentionally) speak over you. When I've observered someone's comment being overlooked, it can be tricky to let that person know that I've heard/acknowledged their comments without in turn speaking over the other people in the conversation. I suppose conversations are just like traffic. Sometimes it's nice and orderly, other times you get stuck in a jam.

Ideally it would be nice to be heard and understood everytime we spoke, but it's not really possible for anyone, AS or NT.