Do you love or hate touch?

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I'm curious on aspie touching, do you like it?
Seems some aspies hate it, others love any kind etc.
By touch I mean anything from a tactile stroke, hug or massage.

Edit: On the assumption that you are given an indication what will happen ahead of time without surprises.

Last edited by Keyman on 26 Feb 2012, 5:06 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I fine with touch, It just depends on the person who's touching me. If it's that creepy guy at the bus stop, No way.

I'm a bit awkward with touching, but otherwise I like it.

It all depends on who is touching me and the circumstances of the situation.

Generally the only person who can touch me in pretty much any way they want is someone I'm romantically involved with. Even my own mother touching me can cause discomfort.

I replied "female, hate touch", but it needs to be qualified some.

For one thing, if someone warns me before they touch me, I don't have a problem with it. Or if I have a warning some other way, like when someone gestures for a handshake or a high-five. I've got no problem hugging someone, as long as it isn't sudden; and while I don't really enjoy it, I appreciate the sentiment, so that the hug itself is neutral and the friendly meaning of it is positive.

It's not the touch that's overwhelming; just the suddenness of it. If someone were to suddenly and without warning touch me, I would either hit them instinctively and as hard as I could, or collapse into a heap, or scream. Possibly all three at once. Coming up behind me and giving me a bear hug is a great way to ruin my day.

I don't know why but I always tense up and likewise don't care for it much. I think it's just the sensory hypersensitivity. I care very much about people and just a sensory issue I think.

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I'm female and only like touch by intimate partner. I am fine with him touching me, but I don't like it if he sits so close to me our arms are touching etc. I find it very annoying. He is also he only the only person I like hugging.

I would prefer it if others didn't touch me. I don't freak out or anything, but I don't like it.

I like hugs, tactile touch, massage etc. But only with pre-warning and from the opposite gender that I'm somewhat attracted to.

I have noticed that some aspies just don't like touch at all. And some loves rough sex, but want to sleep alone. Otoh joining beds in the morning is no problem. One might be confused for less

But the focus is on receiving touch in general. For me it doesn't have to be within the context of an intimate partner. I find touch very nice, and essentially wonder how it is for other aspies?

There's a very small number of people that I like being touched by. I can tolerate some others, but strangers usually make me jump.
I do like a lot of touching and affection from my intimate partner.

This is how I am, though I'm okay with certain close friends touching me.

I don't mind being touched by people I know, except when some random person I don't know hugs me. For example, a guy I know at school hugs people from behind and I'm not too big of a fan of that.

@zzmondo, I would disapprove of such manners too.

This really annoys me, because there are a lot of people from my classes at the university, and a lot of people among my circle of friends (which mostly consists of musicians and people who are hippy-esque; usually both combined), like to give hugs, often from behind or without warning. Especially this one vegan woman from my German class, who I like as a person and who is very nice, but she always does the hug thing and it always is just jarring. Sometimes I feel like hugs are traumatic, haha.

Any social situation makes me awkward.

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Last edited by kg4fxg on 28 Feb 2012, 8:24 am, edited 1 time in total.

Two techniques to deter "back hugers":
* Throw your elbow back hard.
* Kick one lower leg back by bending the knee, preferably hitting the leg or genitalia.
* Bend the head back quickly.

Then claim it was a reflex.. "oops sorry"


Anyway I find friendly touching by the opposite gender really nice. It's of course imperative that it's done in a considerate manner. Be it a hug, tactile touch on hip, fingers in hair etc.

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