Good places for Asperger's men to meet women

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Since some guys complain about too many men being on the internet and outnumbering girls, I figured I would make a list of places where women are the greater ratio in places without a requirement to be outgoing, dance or pay an entry fee, feel free to add to this list.

Parks or Dog walking - Definitely something that can lead to a mutual conversation with a female dog walker, people love talking about their animals. It's even a good way to get to know people in the area and engage in a friendly conversation, I even know people that have met and got married through this.

Charity Events - More women tend to be involved in charity events as opposed to men, there are even more girls working in charity shops so perhaps volunteering to do charity work could be good opportunity to meet the opposite sex.

Book stores, Coffee shops or Libraries - Also good places that are in a relaxed environment and you are more likely to meet an intelligent girl with ambition in a place like this, definitely a good place for someone on the spectrum.



The Beach - The beach is a very relaxed place, many women tend to go to the beach to top up their tans or read a book, some enjoy water sports so looking into taking up a water sport is a good alternative to dancing in a crowded nightclub.



Well that's my list so far, I'm hoping some other people make positive suggestions that are friendly places for people on the spectrum to meet members of the opposite sex.

Major college towns - you'll find loads of brainy women working on masters, sometimes several at the same time.

Cafes - if the alternative vibe strikes ya.

Don't just look for women, look for aspie women. NT's are only going to reject you or keep you for a bit and then kick you away penniless. Actually, an aspie woman has a better chance with an NT man than aspie men have with an NT women. The very purpose of an NT woman's life is a social one. When NT men socialize, they don't care if their women are there or not. The NT woman EXPECTS you to socialize. An NT guy will cheat on any kind of woman. NT guys find it easier to cheat on an aspie because she doesn't have a big social circle to tell her what he's doing behind her back. She's also unable to read the signs of infidelity. She'll eventually find out but an NT woman will find out a lot sooner. My NT cousin married an aspie and was ever so grateful for his fidelity and hard-work but after 8 years, she got very depressed and gained a lot of weight. She ended up having an affair with an NT guy and divorced him. Her complaint was that he always wants to stay home. He doesn't talk to people. He's embarrasing and bores people when he does talk to them. She didn't want to talk about electronics at the end of her day. She wanted to go to the bar with friends. Because of her guilt that he was indeed a GOOD man, She gave him eveything! The house, the car, the dog,
the two children every weekend, everything! She didn't take a dime!! If you decide to take a bite out of an NT woman, you are going to bite off way more than you can chew. Stay with your own type!!

A good place for Asperger's guys would be any place where the context is already spelled out. Inititating conversation out of the clear blue requires the ability to create context and common ground out of nothing, which is very difficult for anyone, especially Asperger's. So an anime convention (I know, I know) would be a good example of the sort of thing I mean. You can say "Nice costume" and then ask about it, and then ask about different characters, and then from there you could talk about whatever topics it leads to.

Randomly picking up a woman at the grocery store (bear with me) goes something like this:

Guy: I noticed you are insecure. I am too.
Girl: That's bold of you. You're cute, but what else you got?
Guy: I've got a lot of interesting things to show you, but if you don't act now, you won't see them. Plus, I know you need me, and the time is right, and I know I'm hot.

So the only thing they have in common in insecurity and a desire to cure that through intercourse. Not very fulfilling. Hating yourself never is. The easier it is to establish common ground, the easier it is to meet people. So any place that is social in nature that you can find people with similar interests is a good place. As long as you are honest with yourself about the fact that you are a complete stranger, you can talk to anyone, and the more context to draw from the better. Remember, the point isn't to get her interested in you, the point is to talk to her and learn about her. If she is talking to you, that's enough interest to go on. Every friendship starts somewhere.

book club, knitting club (they can teach you), soup kitchen to volunteer, ballroom dance class, community college evening classes like cooking courses, yoga, zumba, meditation group, guerrilla gardening groups, etc

Guerilla gardening groups lol

Charity Events are good if you're older. Not many young people enjoy charity-type stuff that much in my experience. However, those few that do are undeniably quality people worth knowing...

The Beach seems like it would only be good if you can pass as a Calvin Klein model...

As for college or university, my general feeling so far is that any women there are trying too hard to appear posh and ambitious.
The same thing applies to the guys, but let's not get distracted here.

Recently, I read an article about those types, both male and female, and it applies really well to nearly all women I've observed there.
They're dressed in suits, their hair tightly kept and their faces telling of their arrogance. They walk into their first course carrying a diplomat-style suitcase.
Arrogant yet ignorant as they seem to be - this is well beyond any reasonable form of confidence - they walk into their first course expecting to be a world-famous diplomat by age 30.

When not listening to what's being said in a course, they try to tell each other things as loudly as possible.
"Did you hear? I was elected president of a student council!" is what one, who seems to have spent more time checking her hair than reading the required material, said to another while standing up in the middle of the room.
What she must have been thinking was 'now I will look ambitious and wealthy'. She came across, though, to me and anyone I'd speak to, as a pretentious middle class girl trying to be cool.

Unfortunately, they also seem very socially controlling. It's impossible to fit in there as a guy if you're not:

1. Pretending to have a posh accent that isn't posh at all;
2. Pretending to dress like you're wealthy;
3. Constantly talking about your 'career' and membership of student organisations that mostly involve binge drinking.

Hopefully, this is different in any part of a college or university not about law. However, it's awful and downright disgusting how almost everyone - no exaggeration - behaves there.
As for the other options - have been to some of those places, haven't met anyone really interesting.

But Mummy there are Contras in the garden...