slightly hurt feelings

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Hi all,

I have a situation happen last night that I probably let bother me a little more than it should have.

I wnet to a fundraiser last, hosted by a (casual) friend and co-worker. I got there late due to a previous engagement, and he was busy (understandably) being the host, greeting people/saying goodbye to those leaving. I was behind two girls he was talking to, and I had another co-worker with me, who was ready to leave (she had been there a couple of hours already). She said goodbye to him, and then he turned to me “you made it!” he said as we shook hands. “Yep,” I replied, and I was ready with a couple of things to say (it looked nice with everyone in yellow (the color for the evening) , nice crowd, etc), but before I could, he said “you going to be around a while, I have to go up there (to the other level).” We never did get to talk beyond that, as he was busy working the room (understandable, since he was the host). I ‘d be lying if I said my feelings weren’t a little hurt that that was the extend of his greeting to me, though I know it wasn’t intentional. It's just that it takes a lot for me to move outsie my comfort zone and go to a social function, and this co-worker is someone who I like and respect a lot.

Later, I didn’t see him to say goodbye when my ride was ready to leave (we were on the lower level, and he was somewhere on the next level, waiters were going back and forth – I almost tripped one – LOL, so it was a bit chaotic). Of course, I feel funny about
that as well.

I'm actually pretty much over my hurt feelings, as it really wasn;t intentional - I know he appreciates the suport for his cause and he has told me that on more than one occassion.

Thanks,

Frito

Your hurt feelings are understandable, but I do agree that it was not intentional on your coworker's part. He was really very busy with his duties as host for this event. That doesn't leave much time for personal one-on-one socializing. Just chill and let it go, and have another, more personal get-together at another time.

i have usually noticed that people at social do's give me cold shoulder approach whereas they are quite warm and cordial with others...nevertheless in this case i feel that he was quite busy so he ignored you