How many people have you had "romantic experiences"

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Just wondering. It seems like most people here have had a lot of romantic experiences.

Count anyone you've done ANY (not necessarily all) of the following with:

*anyone you've been on MORE THAN ONE date with

*anyone you've kissed mouth-to-mouth

*anyone you've had a romantic relationship with

*anyone you've done anything sexual with (which I will define as anything that involves removal of clothing of either partner)


Also I'm wondering:
How did you meet the person/people?
and
Did they approach you romantically, or did you approach them?


Edt: Oops, there was supposed to be a last option for 10+. Guess that one just didn't show up. If you've had that many just say so in the forum.

Last edited by dustyrose on 01 Apr 2012, 3:29 pm, edited 3 times in total.

I've only had one romantic experience.

When I was 14, there was a girl in my art class who I had a lot of chemistry with. We would flirt with each other constantly and would sit beside each other with our legs intertwined. One day, after class, she kissed me. Being a germophobe at the time, I didn't appreciate it because I was scared that it would cause me to become ill, but despite that, I have to admit that it turned me on.

Do you mean all these things together, or can it be someone I've kissed but not dated, etc. ?

Anyway, I'm more of a romantic than a sexual being, so.

It's anyone you've done ANY of those things with, not necessarily all.

If you dated one person and kissed another, you count them both :3.

I've done all these, for the statistic.

I've had four boyfriends, I'm currently with the fourth. I approached the first two, the last two approached me. I met the most recent one via my friend who kinda matched us up.

I have dated seven girls all of diffrent backgronds ect I wish I could have stayed with the first girl I dated cause we where something special she ended uo moving away I never saw he again after that since then I have a fear of getting too close.

i added the 10+ poll option. that's where i fall.

i usually approached the people i had romantic experiences with, but with boyfriend it was mutual. we met here.

To the OP:
1. should guys vote? (women's discussion)
2. if you would rather guys not can an option of just see the results be added please.

Ok this question is a little bit more complicated than usual for a poll.


I've been on second dates with 20 guys. (you don't want to know the number of first dates, they were hell)

I've kissed 4 guys.

I've been in 3 relationships.

I've had 2 sexual partners.

Everyone has approached me, I never approach guys.

I met M because he was my cousins best friend when we were out surfing together.
I met A out dancing one night.
I met L out in a park during some kind of festival I was dragged to.
I met T because I played soccer with him and then we ended up being housemates a few months later with other people.

Hey thanks for the responses guys :3. I guess it makes me hopeful that aspies can have (successful?) romantic experiences but at the same time I've never ever been approached by a guy for romantic purposes (or approached a guy, but I'm very shy and it would take a LOT to get me to do that).

So it seems most of you met significant others:
a) through friends/social life (which is a whole other discussion on how to find these xD)
b) online

Here's my story:
The one guy I've been with I met on a dating site when I was 18. We chatted on email/msn for about six months before meeting up and we thought we were perfect for each other. When we met up (it was a mutual decision, not one asking the other) he was VERY quiet and not what I was expecting. I never really hit it off with him in real life but I kept trying for just over a year before he broke up with me (which I won't go into). We had a lot of stupid little fights the whole time we were together (Which, in hindsight, I see were mainly a result of my own emotional immaturity. I do think I've improved significantly since then). We haven't talked since November 3rd 2011 and I'm perfectly fine with it, I don't miss him at all.

Though, something that worries me, is that the whole time we were together, I had ZERO sexual inclinations towards him. Absolute null zero and it made me a bit uncomfortable that he found me sexually interesting. I have felt sexually interested in guys before (though it's a fairly small percentage of people, I have ZERO interest in over 90% of the male population), but I've never been in a position with any of them where I could act on it so I really have no idea how I'd feel about that, I feel like it might be a lot more boring and/or uncomfortable in real life.

Oh I'm sorry about that, it's okay if guys vote but I was gearing the question more towards females just because we apparently get approached by guys, and I'm wondering how other aspie females go about getting approached.

A and B are correct but you forgot C

C) through a common interest

I realised recently that there were some I can't remember. That was new. Feels like I've done too much, I'd like to stop now.

Four. 3 online, 1 work. I'm inclined to believe were it not for the internet I would have never had a boyfriend (I've had two, now in my 2nd relationship).

Four. 3 online, 1 work. I'm inclined to believe were it not for the internet I would have never had a boyfriend (I've had two, now in my 2nd relationship). I should add all encounters occurred after we met up in person. Which would make a third category here, as surely some folks have had some sort of romantic entanglement with people online only.