After a long time, I may have finally lost.

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Later today my wife may be losing her job. This on its own would suck, sure, but the real problem is what it means in the broader sense. We are moving at the end of April, and we were barely able to afford the move to the new apartment. If my wife loses the job, we won't be able to afford the move(despite the fact that i am working full time). We will either end up in a friend's basement or living out of our car.

My wife and I have been living together for 8 years. We've always been able to keep a roof over our heads. Being homeless has been my second biggest fear(the first is going insane) since I was six years old. My only goal in my adult life has been to survive and keep a roof over us.

I feel like I've failed. Worse yet, I feel now like this is how I was always destined to end up. That God or fate or something was always going to guarantee that i'd end up here. I'd be lying if I said I haven't had suicidal thoughts.

I feel helpless and scared. I don't know what to do.

Have you looked at more affordable places? If you are moving into a house that you are buying, could you refinance it or something? If you are working, you're sure to be able to find some place, even if it's temporary, until you can get back on your feet.

I wouldn't try to think about it tonight. It's almost impossible to find a solution to something while you're upset. Get some rest, do something to get your mind off it, and then decide on a time tomorrow to sit down and start looking for solutions. That's what helps me. If I give myself a set time to think about it, I won't feel like I need to be doing something right then.

Good luck!

Sadly, the apartment we've been planning to move to is the cheaper solution we had found to earlier problems. Things have been getting worse and worse for us as time has gone on, and that apartment was the last hope. Further compounding the issue is that we don't want to lose our pets. This is literally the latest in a continuous series of misfortune, and I am out of solutions where usually I'm the kind of guy who will work until a problem is solved.

But again, it is not 100% certain that the job is gone yet. We should know in less than 12 hours. I won't lie: my mind is desperately clinging to the hope that it won't happen.

Try your best not to think about it tonight. Take a sleeping pill if you have them. Or have a stiff drink or two and go to bed. Either way set a time to think about it tomorrow. You cannot find a solution to something when you are really upset about it. It's always much easier, and problems don't look as overwhelming, after a good rest.

Hello Sagroth

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I have fallen many times, and each time I have persevered and recreated my life...a better life. I know these words may seem hollow to you at this time, but I hope you persevere and move through this as you no doubt have done with every challenge that life has presented you.

My best wishes to you and your wife in this troubled time. Please update as the situation develops as you are in my thoughts.

It seems rather pessimistic to suggest that there is nothing that can be done about it. Why take drugs or get drunk just to put it off until later? How is the upset going to be any less severe by then?

Bless your heart.

I don't have any helpful words, other than to say you are not alone. Like you, my biggest fear is not being able to survive financially. And for me it happened. I won't make this about me, but stuff happens. I was married once (for 19 years) but was never able to pay my way financially. Now I am trying to work up the strength to take a minimum wage job that I hate, so I can afford to pay my parents rent.

Stuff happens.

If I have any advice, my advice is not to take it. My example is not one you want to follow. But you are not alone.

My wife still has her job. We should be ok. Thanks for the support, everyone.