How often do you think of embarrassing social moments?

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***I meant "How often do you think of embarrassing social moments?" in the poll

I've always had to deal with really embarrassing/awkward moments when it comes to socializing due to my ineptness (I never notice them until in retrospect). I tend to say not only things that people don't care about but also make a fool of myself for whatever reason (i.e. I can't take a hint to leave a group's conversation, my talking devolves into dumb ramblings, etc.)

And especially lately, I am constantly haunted by ALL the socially embarrassing moments of my life over and over (this goes back to as early as 4th grade which is a span of 16 years). I can't stop thinking about them!

It's to the point where I verbally tell myself to stop thinking about it which has become a disturbing habit in realization. I'm wondering if it's normal for AS people to go through that kind of haunted social embarrassment or if I should go see a psychiatrist to figure out why.

(I noticed another student with a different autism do the same thing when my TA told him to stop playing solitaire in front of my entire class; he murmured to himself "stupid" and quickly closed his laptop out of embarrassment)[i][u]

I also do this since I don't have a social life anymore. If I don't keep myself distracted with online activities or entertainment media, I constantly reminisce about my past, and I usually remember social events that were hurtful or horribly embarrassing for me. It's especially bad when I go to bed and try to sleep, and also right after I wake up. I open my eyes in the morning and round and round it goes, hurtful remarks and situations that I could have handled better and frowning faces that look at me as if I had centipedes crawling out of my nostrils. I try very hard to live in the present and stop thinking about the past, but I don't know how to do that. The past just won't me leave me alone. I wonder if this could be a symptom of PTSD

Might be AS symptom that is rarely mentioned because doctors can't see it. Same issue here.

Sounds to me like it'd be related to social anxiety, which is not a part of an ASD but is a common co-morbid.

Never.

I usually don't realize I did a social blunder until after and then I think about it for a long time. Sometimes I remember embarrassing social blunders that happened to me as a little girl and I can't get them out of my head for a long time.

I just about never get embarassed and if I do, I move on from it as soon as the situation is over. Learn and move forward. When there are things that maybe I should be embarassed about but I dont understand, I can get angry with the other persons reaction.

Less than once per day. They do come up occasionally though. It was hard for me to let it go but once I did I found it easier to socialise. Now I just have to deal with getting into arguments constantly.

I commit a fair number of blunders everyday, and after I figure out what I've done I tend to get stuck on the what-ifs and should-haves for a while. If I do something really awful, my mind not only repeats that one thing but other things I've done of the same magnitude. When this happens, I start getting worked up and end up shutting down for a while. It's a vicious cycle that just keeps on turning.