How to talk to Asian girls?

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OK, so this thread may be locked for me being construed as racist/sexist/whatever. But, I can only say what I've experienced.

Anyway, I do find Asian girls pretty attractive. But, I find it hard to "strike up" conversations with them in public places. I've had some exceptions to this, like one time I was like 15 years old in Florida, and a bunch of girls from Korea invited me to play water volleyball with them and we got along well and all that, some language issues. However, that might be entirely irrelevant, as there's not a lot of Koreans in my state anyway, most of the Asians here are Vietnamese (sometimes Hmong), Thai, or Chinese. And to an extent, they keep to themselves in their communities and whatnot, and basically...don't seem to like white people. Filipinos I've met have been more or less the friendliest Asians I've met, as there's a lot of American influence there. But yeah, the Vietnamese, Thai, and Chinese seem sorta xenophobic over here, and they all sorta seem to have their own social circle of Asians. There's about zero Japanese people in my state, and Japanese culture/etc is what I like the most of Asian cultures, but honestly I can probably count on like one hand how many Japanese people I've ever talked to in person.

So yeah, as far as just even making Asian friends, it can be harder, due to them being xenophobic, but then for dating here, it seems nigh on impossible, as all the Asian girls around seem to not wanna be talked to at all. Like one time I asked this girl what she thought of a drink at the Asian market and she was just like "I have a boyfriend." So yeah, it's nothing against Asians, I've had good experiences with them too, just they seem really...closed. The biggest contrast for the Asians I've seen was Middle Eastern and Indian people, they're all really nice, and I get along pretty well with them, like you can talk with them for a half hour and they'll invite you to dinner, Asians 99% of them aren't like that, and seem to have a huge distrust of Americans/white people.

So again, this post isn't meant to be racist or anything (though it might be better in Social Skills, not sure), I'm just wondering, has anyone else encountered this problem with making Asian friends, either just for platonic friends, or for dating? How do you get around it?

They like smart guys and funny guys just like any girl does.

Personally, I've found Indonesians (some of my friends are Indonesian-Dutch) and Filipinos much more open and friendly than Chinese people. Indonesians have always been very open and tolerant to me. Filipinos, especially poorly-paid employees on cruise ships, have surprised me by being friendly and having casual conversations in spite of their tedious work. My parents used to work at a Malaysian company's office in Rotterdam, and they observed that the company had a policy that preferred Filipinos over Malaysians as, paraphrasing, "Malaysians couldn't be trusted, asked for privilege and probably murdered a captain who disappeared en-route at one point during our career there."

But really, I'd say you should just go for it the way you'd go for it with a black, white or green (Wiccan?) girl.

Place an ad on a dating site. You never know.

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/tor/881177993.html

But then it looks like that.

Dye your hair red, if you can make it look natural. I used to live near the Asian district in Ottawa, I caught Asian girls checking me out from time to time - well ok I missed it completely but my gf didn't, according to her it was happening frequently (take that with a grain of salt, she's extremely jealous) - a couple of people I asked about it figured it could be my hair. Dunno if that's true or not, but exotic features are relative and some people are attracted to them (accents etc).

That guy in the Craigslist ad is dreaming. He's round but he's looking for a super model. Good luck with that!

When I say dating site I don't mean Craigslist, BTW. Craigslist is easy and cheap - exactly the type of site good girls avoid. I mean a pay site like Date.com or something else.

Try using your mouth

I've always had a thing for East Indians (Then again, I'm open to anyone who's not white), but there's not very many in Slower Lower DE and most of the ones who do live here are either old enough to be my parents or jailbait. I've also never really encountered that many of them--only went to school with two of them, and I damn near mistook one of them for being Hispanic or half-black/half-white. Before, there was just this one doctor in my former hometown who patched me up when I broke my wrist in 7th grade (All I cared about was that he knew his stuff, and the fact that he patched me up really well reflects this; my late grandfather, who was also a doctor, would be proud.) But there are plenty of MILFs among them, and I wouldn't be surprised if any one of them might be open to a fling with a white guy. Surely there are also some gamer/nerd girls among them.

ha

I'm Korean myself and there is no special instruction as to how to strike up a conversation with asian girls. Just be friendly to them as you would to any other people you'd like to get to know. People whose first language is not English may feel uncomfortable to keep up the conversation.

There you go, 1000knives! You've got to brush up on your Japanese!

I remember talking to some Chinese (Shanghaiese and HKers) in an international student event thing.......I was "okay I'll give you a new name" and was going to put my hand over one of the girls' head (like, knighting people....only like in dragon ball z ) and they all reacted like I was going to hit them (i.e. jumping/cowering away)

I explained it and stuff. I thought that's be useful....somehow as East Asians don't like it when random people do that. And they don like it if go up to them and hug them saying "Welcome to America" while being hyper as hell (again, international students).

Malaysia has an official "Malay supremacy" clause which promotes Malays in government and political related things over Chinese people. Think it also applies to business laws. Affirmative Action favors the Malay majority in this case. This is context for those unaware.



I've spoken to Japanese people......in carppy Japanese. They ALWAYS responded to me in English

Apart from the cultural differences which might be more apparent, I think they can definitely have a more reserved and subtle nature. Asian women can definitely appear to be more subtle which might strike as appealing towards a male on the spectrum or get the impression that they would be a better choice for a long term relationship.

Indeed, I've heard about that policy - the people at the top were Malaysians. The people who had to work hard for little pay while under a Malaysian's command on the ships were Filipinos.

lol. Im not sure how it works in detail but im sure its not extreme to the point of 'complete incompetents with no degree getting away with it' but im not sure