Do you get called condescending often?

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I get called condescending, or arrogant, or similar things often - the thing is though, I don't want to be seen as condescending - I certainly don't try to act condescending - I also am unsure of how to be less condescending, and why I'm being perceived as condescending. I've had people tell me "you're the most arrogant person I've ever met in my life"... I don't get it. I don't even try bragging or anything like that.

Do you ever get called condescending or arrogant, with no intention of acting that way?

Also, what might one need to do to not be perceived as arrogant or condescending?

Well, in real life rarely. Or maybe, sometimes. On the internet, quite often. I feel guilty about writing autistic people advices that either were or might have been condescending. I tried to be more direct with them and failed miserably.

When I was younger, I was often called a nerd, an as*hole or something along these lines. Now people tend to regard me as a shy person, or when they get to know better my dark side, sometimes they fear me. IDK how come they see me as fearsome...

I've been called narcissistic, but not condescending. I have had people be condescending towards me before though, A LOT. I hate it.

I don't get called them often but I have before.

I've been called patronising a few times, but I think it was due to trying to over-explain something that the other person thought was easy for them to understand. So they think that I think they are an idiot!

I have never been accused of condescending, but in fact, the exact opposite has happened in elementary school (Grade 6-8 ) where quite a few of the NT kids act very condescending/patrionizing towards me because they'd think I'm weird and don't understand anything that people say to me.

Absolutely. I have a very good friend that tells me that very often. She gets mad at me quite often and yells 'sometimes you're unbearably condescending, you act like you were always right!! !'.

After it, when it turns out that I was right (and when I say I'm sure about something, I'm almost always right), she gets mad at me again. Because I was right.

I just gave up trying to understand. I just smile, take it with humour and a lot of patience.

And then when she realizes I'm being patient and waiting for her to be calmed down, she gets mad at me (again) and blames me (again) for being condescending and suggesting she's irrational!! !

I saw a tv show a few months ago were the person with Asperger's seemed really arrogant. When I read about Asperger's after that, I learned that having an incredible low selfesteem AND an incredible high selfesteem is common traits.

So...
solution 1, you have a selfesteem so high that others get uncomfortable around you, and find it abnormal.
solution 2, you are like the person I saw on tv, he always had his nose abit too high(typical arrogancy in comics), and he rolled with his eyes alot, making it seem what others said had less importance, and when people asked him questions, he hesitated 1-2 seconds too long before he turned his head towards them, so it seems he had more important stuff to do than to answer them.
solution 3, you hang out with jerks.
solution 4, you are just a typical INTJ personality(MBTI), like many with Asperger's are, and therefore seem condescending; http://www.personalitypage.com/INTJ.html

It's the other way around for me. People are condescending towards me, because they think I'm dumb.

I've been called a know it all, or rather, a f@*kng know it all, a few times. I don't mean to condescend. I'd rather use the right word, and have all the salient facts, and I just assume everyone else should feel the same way.

Yes.

I'm usually either arrogant or a "smarta$$."

Unless I happen to be turning my poisoned tongue against something they don't personally like, then I'm cool. It's only when I'm criticizing something they DO like is when they have a problem.