How do i save this relationship?

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My Gf of over 3yrs has told me she just doesnt love me the same anymore but still loves me, that because my familys always arguin n s**t, she's tired of hearing it, hearin about it n seeing me hurt, But at the same time she admits she doesnt feel bad about changing plans on me at the last minute and that not seeing me doesnt bother her as much anymore......Im always tryin to get to see her or spend time with her and the times we are together she just lays down or sleeps n she says its from being tired from work

Idk what to freakin do, she doesnt know weather to be with me anymore or not and I dont know what to do here, she wants to leave because of my family being the way they are and i cant f*****g change that, ive made the effort to simply not share my home life with her much anymore but it dont matter to her cuz she still see or hears me in a down or upset mood and i always tell her that just talkin to her makes me feel better but she says she dont know how to make me feel better.....What the hell should i do? i freakin love her with my entire being, she's my whole damn world n it seems like she doesnt want me anymore
Certain Aspie traits of mine also seem to bother her and ive asked her to just tell me when i am cuz i honestly dont notice if i did something wrong or inappropriate, and the constant issues with family all stem from them not wanting to accept me being Aspie as the reason for alot of the problems i have, even though the problems i have are those that pretty much every aspie faces
and they expect me to react like an NT to everything

i just dont know what to do....please help :*(

Seems like she almost has one foot out the door. If she does break up with you I hope it doesn't devastate you too much. Of course, knowing that you're an aspie, letting go is gonna be difficult. I wonder which aspie trait of yours gets on her nerves?

the talking n not knowing when to stop, n ive told her to tell me when n i will without offense, thats how my friends do it with me, i ve told em to just tell me to shut up n i will without offense cuz i didnt realize what i did, and she also doesnt like that i dont realize when i do something inappropriate, but she says the main issue is the family thing cuz she can stand the little things like that, but not the stress thats coming off my family...

My aspieness has had the NERVE to break up relationships! Seriously. The saying, "Was it something I said?" really applies to us. I never understood what I did or said that was wrong enough to kill a relationship. Sucks, huh?

its messing up my whole family life, so yeah....*sighs* life...

I read your blog and this situation seems tough. I understand you love this girl but from what you posted regarding the things she has said to you...it sounds like she is already checked out of the relationship. I am a girl and trust me...when I girl is being wishy washy with you then she is just trying to figure out a way to leave but she hasn't bc to some extent you are a safety blanket. She knows you r there for her and she feels secure. But she is not into the relationship anymore so it's a matter of time befor she leaves, is this salvageable??? Not sure,...I guess it depends on how close you are, how old you both are, are you still intimate or not, is there possibly someone she is interested in?

The whole family thing bothering her, I'm sure it's huge but if she wants to be with you u will work it out. Have a talk with her and ask her to make up her mind. She shouldn't toy around.

Food for thought...good luck. Relationships can hurt and they are NEVER perfect.