Asked in 8th grade if I was gay...

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I remember that near the end of my 8th grade year (I finished 12th grade this year). the person in front of me in my math class asked someone to ask me if I was gay. I never understood that until now. I have been attracted to girls since middle school, but I think that I see the problem finally. I am always alone and never had a girlfriend (what is up with "relationships" in middle school?). Maybe my social awkwardness around people made them think that I was gay. I also don't go out of my way to check out girls.

Does this sound like a possible answer?

I got accused of being gay in school, too. I was terrified of people, generally, so this was mistaken for me being a lesbian. I had crushes on boys, though, but was so afraid I repulsed them, I didn't dare let anyone know about it. People are so presumptuous. My belief is, people are not gay unless they tell people they are and others should leave it at that and quit making up lies and spreading rumors when they have no clue.

Yes it is common for teens to assume that you're gay if you don't at lest attempt a to pair off by at lest 9th grade. I was assumed to be, because I hung out with the girls and not the guys in school. If you don't meet what they think is normal they will try to put you in a group. It might be wrong but it is normal to try to make sense of the world even with out much information to go on.

Yeah, the same happened to me. It means nothing, don't worry about it. It's just that some people tend to assume that quiet, unassuming guys are gay.

I don't know about your situation, but for me it was more a form of mocking than a genuine question.

I have been asked in my senior year of high school if I am a lesbian.

I'm the same way, always had an interest in females since kindergarten, had 1 week-long 'relationship' in 8th grade and many many many crushes. I had an SED teacher in the 11th grade who first came off like one of the 'bros' but began targeting me for sarcastic gay slurs that seriously messed up my program. I've only had that light bulb go off in the last few months; I believe it's even possible he could have frightened away a couple girls I was wanting to get to know.

Anyway, sorry to see the stereotyping still goes on. When everyone else was gearing up for the prom I was in the thick of a tropical fish aquarium obsession, hormones hadn't kicked in yet and I just couldn't see what the big deal was.

As far as this classmate, odds are he wasn't an aspie or his curiosity would have driven him to ask you himself. #2, what business is it of his? Thirdly, unless you 'were' and he 'was' and there was a mutual connection, he asked a pointless question that has a pointless answer which benefits noone


And so, the vast majority of my gay acquaintances and kin have all known they were that way at an early age, in particular an uncle had a certain nickname for himself before he reached middle school but he didn't come out fully until my grandpa died

Anyway it's pretty much a universal aspie thing to be misunderstood, and one's preferences or lack thereof are just another aspect. If being alone so much bothers you, do what you are able to change it. If you're fine with it, don't let someone else's standards influence you. But just like with me, Ms Right isn't just going to knock on my door someday, so I try to at least make myself visible to any potentials

Yep. At school, at home, etc. Doesn't bother me though. Have had gay friends and can't see how different sexual preferences can really mean that we're particularly different. Politics, football codes and religion make us far more different. Happy to be hetero, and hope I'd have been happy if I were gay

my brother is 28 and single(NT) and a couple of people have asked if he is gay(which he isn't). Some People seem to think "oh they must be gay" when they are not in a relationship by a certain age.

I've pretty much gotten used to people who don't know me that well assuming that I'm gay. In fact today I was having a short conversation with my sister-in-law today and she asked if I went to the parade, I asked what parade, "the gay pride parade".

There was in fact a gay pride parade downtown today. I actually worked at the theme park that the parade goes right by and I remember getting hit on quite a lot by the guys so I tried to make a joke out of it with her. Oh well.

Most people only see one thing and don't think that there cold be other possible factors and more likely a combination of several factors.

I'm sure some people will think I'm gay, but if I was I would still sped most of my time being single.

You should have asked, "Would you think of me as less of a person if I was Gay?" That would have been a good comeback. I'm sorry that that person was ignorant enough to go up to you and ask that.

I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend. I don't know how to play that game. but i wish i did.

people won't stop asking me if I'm gay. for no other reason than that. my brother is constantly harassing me about it. they don't understand, I'm not unattractive. the funny thing is that even if i was gay i would probably still be single for the same reason.

I was accused of being lesbian all the way back in the 5th grade.